The truth is, every needy person has met different people before who could have possibly helped them, but didn't.
Why did the person who helped them choose to help them? I know it's crazy to think that way, but honestly, there is a reason attached to every act of kindness, some for good and some for selfish interests.
We live in a society where people are driven by different things. Some by emotions, some by norms, some by religions, some by people's opinions, and so on.
These things are capable of influencing our decisions in certain situations. Personally, I can recall many times when I was moved to help with emotions, by tradition, or to impress people.
The question I keep asking myself is, what is the right heart condition to help? Is it compassion, is it acquaintance, or is just a feeling enough?
If you look closely, you would realize that if goodness is actually triggered by something, there are days we would not be able to help because we would not always have that trigger.
Considering this, I think giving is supposed to be unconditional and with pure intentions, but it must also be properly balanced, considering our pockets, in order not to go to extremes such that it would render us broke.
If you ask me what drives me to help, my answer is direct: it depends on the situation. Sometimes I get moved by compassion, sometimes it's because I feel like it, and sometimes it is because the person asks for it.
But I am not one of those who help for validation or for selfish interests. When I give a helping hand to someone, it's completely without any expectations. My primary aim is to see that I come through for that individual, and that's enough.
Does that mean that sometimes I don't feel the urge to expect something out of it, even if not from the person directly? The answer is, I do feel that way, but I don't allow my thoughts or feelings to overtake me.
Most times, I counter it instantly and suppress it till it dies. Any act of kindness attached with expectations or selfish interest is simply a business and not necessarily love.
We will all feel like bragging or attaching expectations sometimes; the feeling is not a problem, but allowing it to mature into action is where the problem lies.
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