I am yet to get married but I have seen some toxic marriages that got me scared of getting married someday. Marriage is good and honorably. He that find a wife, finds a good thing and obtain favour from the Lord, Says the holy Bible.
As good as marriage seems to be, there are toxic marriages I have seen in my community that even made me think otherwise. There are attitudes that both partners do or engaged that harm one another,either emotionally, psychologically or physically. I have heard and seen some toxic marriages that taught me a great lesson and have thought deeply about it. I will share few behaviors or characteristics that led to toxic marriages.
1.Physical abuse. This involves a physical bad behavior that has to do with fighting or causing injury to one another. I have seen some couple that has been in this toxic marriage for long and to an extent the woman was arrested for using a broken bottle in the man's head and injured the man severely at the cause of their argument and fighting. She hit the man's head with broken bottle and the man fainted. Is their children that shout and people came and saw what happened. Later on the man's relation brought a police officer and got the woman arrested and took her to police station for cautioning. In a toxic marriage they will be abusive, insulting each other and neglecting one another even though they are sleeping in the same roof. This physical abuse is very bad and a lot of people have lost their lives at the cause of it.
2.Extreme possessiveness. It has to do with trying to be possessive over the other person extremely. Marriage is honorably and mutual respect is needed. But in a toxic marriage one of the partner will be extremely possessive over the other. One person wants to have control over the entire family financing, children , lands, properties, and whatever the man or woman said wants to stand without asking or accepting any opinions from the other partner.
3.Persistent Disrespect. Marriage is a union of two different people coming together as one. Whatever they will do,two of them must agreed to do it together. The woman respect the man as the head of the family and the man respect the wife as a supporter or helper to the family. But in a toxic marriage persistent disrespect take over . The woman doesn't respect the man as the head of the family. The man doesn't see the wife as anything good for the family. They argued and quarrels and have a different opinions, no one wants to accept the other person options or agreed to the other people decision.
4.Poor communication. A happy marriage have good communication perpetually. Communication is an act of exchanging information, ideas, connections, feelings from one person to another for a tangible and reasonable outcome or feedback. So in marriage, proper communication is a key that strengthens their love and create a strong bold between them. But in a toxic marriage poor communication has become the deal of the day. Wife doesn't communicate with the husband and vice versa. Poor communication is toxic and have cause a lot of toxicity in most marriages these days.
5.Manipulation and having control over the other person. Manipulation is a skillful attitude or a psychological way of having the ability to influence the other person or taking advantage of someone for your selfish and gainful reasons. So, in toxic marriage control and manipulation is rampant. The other person will be manipulative over some certain situations and try to use a skillful ways in any devious means to take advantage of the other person for his or her selfish reasons.
6.Emotional abuse. In toxic marriage the other partner misuse his or her emotions in order to hurt the other person. Especially in the case of satisfying one sexual desires, being uncaring towards each other feelings and being insecure towards the other person emotional needs. A lot of toxic marriage has been through emotional abuse. The man will denial the wife of her right via her satisfaction of sexual urge and go outside and be satisfying another woman. Or the woman refusing to allow the man to make love to her as husband and wife and allowing another man to be having sex with her outside. Sex is very good in marriage and sex bolds, connect two people together more and more and create a sense of love and affection for each other.
Lack of sex in marriage has caused a lot of toxicity in marriages nowadays. These are few characteristics I can share with you guys about toxic marriage and I believed as you've read through you will learn something.
