Hello, friends
Today my son Carlos will travel alone to Havana for the first time.
He's already 16 years old, and it's a safe trip. Plus, they pick him up at the terminal upon arrival. However, as much as I think about all the positive and safety details, my maternal fear prefers to keep him under my wing, safe here in the nest.
Abel tells me it's no problem. He says: Many music students in his class travel to their provinces every month, and they do it alone.
When I told him that Carlitos has never traveled alone, he said something I couldn't refute: There's a first time for everything
And he's right.
Also, as a mother, I have to allow them to have their own experiences, their independence, and also to feel like they're growing up and that we can trust them.
As much as it hurts, I have to let it go, because when they grow older and want to live their own lives, they have to be prepared.
And so do I.
As mothers, part of our job is to prepare our children for life.
I know that, even though it terrifies me.
Abel told me another truth: you have to trust yourself, in what you've taught and prepared them for. What's the point of so much theory if you don't put it into practice?
I'll tell you tomorrow 馃檹. I've worked up the courage, and if we want to go on vacation to Havana, I have to trust in the work I've done as a mother. Trust in my son.
His independence is part of my job as a mother. No matter where he flies, I'll always be here watching over the nest.
Versi贸n en espa帽ol
Hola, amigos
Hoy mi hijo Carlos viajar谩 solo por primera vez hasta La Habana.
Ya tiene 16 a帽os y es un viaje seguro. Adem谩s, lo recogen en la terminal a su llegada. Sin embargo, por m谩s que piense en todos los detalles positivos y de seguridad, mi temor de madre prefiere tenerlo bajo mi ala, aqu铆 seguro en el nido.
Abel me dice que no pasa nada. Dice: Muchos estudiantes de m煤sica de su aula, viajan todos los meses a sus provincias y lo hacen solos.
Cuando le dije que Carlitos nunca ha viajado solo, me dijo algo que no pude refutar: Para todo hay una primera vez
Y tiene raz贸n.
Adem谩s, como madre, tengo que permitir que ellos tengan sus propias vivencias, su independencia y que tambi茅n, se sientan que est谩n creciendo y que podemos confiar en ellos.
Por m谩s que me duela, tengo que dejarlo ir, ya que, cuando crezca m谩s y quiera hacer su vida, tiene que estar preparado.
Y yo tambi茅n.
Como madres, parte de nuestro trabajo es preparar a nuestros hijos para la vida.
Eso lo s茅, aunque me aterre.
Abel me dijo otra verdad: tienes que confiar en ti, en lo que le has ense帽ado y preparado. 驴De qu茅 vale tanta teor铆a si no lo pones en pr谩ctica?
Ma帽ana les contar茅 馃檹. Ya me he armado de valor y si queremos ir de vacaciones a La Habana, tengo que confiar en el trabajo que he hecho como madre. Confiar en mi hijo.
Su independencia es parte de mi trabajo como madre. No importa a donde vuele, yo siempre estar茅 aqu铆 cuidando el nido.