This just reminded me of the laws in my favorite book that states "Avoid stepping into a great man's shoes"

Why? So that you do not get lost in their shadow or in a past that is not of your own making.

And reading this now, I think, you did the right thing growing out of the shadow of your dad even though it made your relationship with him grow sour

One day he will come to understand and I am pretty sure, he will

And he will come around, just have faith

And mum is such a strong woman to be able to live with him, and accommodate him, and understand him as well....kudos to her

I am glad you have a partner that has helped dyou in a positive way, and that has helped you find your voice and who you truly are

I wish you luck in the contest