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This post is in response to a prompt by 
June is usually the preferred month of marriage for women. What would you say is the ideal wedding?
Answer
As a young girl, I always envisioned my wedding happening on a gloriously Sunny day, with the man of my dreams by my side. My imagination painted a vivid picture of a very elaborate ceremony, where I would don a flowing, intricately embroidered white gown while my fiance sported a classic black tuxedo. My hair would be made so beautiful and adorned with a delicate tiara, fit for only a princess. A sleek white limousine would be waiting, ready to whisk us away to our honeymoon destination. We'd already have secured reservations at a luxurious seaside retreat, with a suite overlooking the beach and the King sized beds laid out in pure white linens. I had everything planned out.
Then afterwards, I anticipated nothing but happily ever after..... Hahaha!
I was a November Bride. Over here, the rains could spring surprises in the months of June, July and even August so I had known it that those months of the rainy season was a no no, for me.....lols. I didn't want a wet wedding.
My wedding did happen, on a grand scale....
Because I did spend hours, days, and even months planning for it, without missing out on even the tiniest detail.
Twenty-four Hours led to a lifetime.
Reflecting on the past, I realize that more of the immense focus and effort I invested in a single day would have been geared towards investing in the thousands of days my spouse and I would spend together in marriage. While acknowledging the significance of the wedding day, I now see that I would approach it differently if given the chance to do it all over again.
I've come to understand that lavishness doesn't necessarily translate to happiness thereafter. Maybe because I'm older now and with age comes wisdom, so I would say that I would prioritize the journey over the ceremony. In my youth, when I had my head in the clouds, it was a different ball game but now that I am older and wiser, it is also an entirely different ball game altogether.
Now I would keep it simple and unique.
Many wedding ceremonies comes off without a glitch but how many can say the same for many marriages? What happens beyond 'I do' should be our primary focus!
An ideal wedding, in my candid opinion, extends beyond just the vows and the fanfare. It should signify the journey in its entirety, a journey of partnership and commitment between the two.
An ideal marriage is identified by the level of unwavering trust, loyalty and love that exists, along with their relentless commitment to honouring their vows even in challenging circumstances.
An ideal marriage should be a safe haven, a sanctuary of comfort, joy, encouragement, love, passion, romance and intimacy.
If marriage does not feel like home, then it isn't ideal!
In conclusion, I advise that while you feel the gown should be gorgeous with beautiful trimmings, the bouquet colourful, the food exquisite, the guest list meticulous, along with the towering designs of the pyramid cakes, slowly intoxicating wedding playlist, a grand reception, and a spa day so dedicated to making you look your stunning best, on your special day, remember that as you have everything down to the tiniest detail for a glitch-free ceremony, so also you owe yourself a huge success in your marriage.
It mustn't fail at all cost.
This thought should come before 'I do'.
I am 
