One friend is married, another is suffering from a divorce, another is trying to heal from the losses of loved ones. Someone just opened a business, another has their business folded up. Meanwhile some are navigating through heartbreak. Everyone seems to be in completely different stages of love and life but no one talks about the loneliness that comes after a loss. On the surface it looks like everyone has it all figured out but secretly many are still trying to find their way, many are trying to heal and many are suffering from pain that the world doesn't see.
But really, how are you? This is one of the few questions that many aren't sincere to. "We are fine" seems to be the default answer, but deep down, we are burdened with a load of cares, haunted by thoughts that just can't go , and the need to experience true peace and freedom. A lot of people aren't fine if they would be sincere with the question of their well-being, this is beyond one's social economic status, it's the system designed to demonstrate the need that we need each other to survive, no matter how irrelevant we may assume they are, but only if we answer the question "how are you?" Sincerely,
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A lady once talked about a world-class conference that was held, she also was a participant. After days of lectures by a professor, on the final day of their conference he asked them to pen down what they had always wanted to achieve but couldn't. At first they chuckled, all looking like a joke, but when they realized the professor was serious, they pondered for a few minutes and wrote. One after the other they read what they've written down and the professor kept asking who could help them fulfill that dream. Surprisedly, just a few left the conference without their lost dream fulfilled. The rest got their answers and what they once sought for fulfilled.
The story above teaches us one thing- That while we don't have the ability to fulfill all our dreams, there's someone out there who can, but only if we are open to sharing. We aren't created as beings of perfection, while we are strong, sometimes we are weak. It's not vulnerability, but a part that makes us all human. We may not be fine at all times and that's okay. In our 30s and above, weird things happen, life opens us up to phases we may be new to, so whenever you're asked "how are you?" Sometimes, to certain circles, be sincere.
