Before I took my finances seriously, I didn't like some of my uncles, most of these people did not do anything to me, but just because I knew how my mother took care of them when they were struggling I believed that they should be able to do the same for me when I was also struggling financially and anytime I ask them for help and they give me an excuse the hate that I have for them grow, what I realize was me blaming what’s wrong in my life on them. I believe they should’ve helped me because my mother helped them.
This mentality did not stop there. I complained a lot about the government, and I compared our country to so many foreign countries that are doing so well and this was not because of anything, it was me blaming the government for my problem. I kept believing that government was a major reason why things were not working out for me and why I couldn’t grow in life. I did this for several years and I believed I needed a sudden opportunity because after I’ve complained about so many things all my life, I believed luck was the only way and the only bailout for me
Believing in Luck is another type of illusion that I experience, and this was very common among the youth
me living with my mother, I always believe that for me to succeed in life I need Luck and if this should work in my favor, I’ll be financially free because after I’m done complaining the only thing I rely on is luck to change my situation I couldn’t think it through. I thought that the government was not helping and my family was not helping either. The thing that could change my situation is a sudden change. I imagined different instances of him making unrealistic money. I was using my imagination to console myself.
This led me to do so many things online I put a lot of the little money I had into get get-rich scheme which did not yield anything, it was a total waste of my money, my time, and my life. I did this for several years not until I realized that if I continued like this, I would end up having nothing in my life. Complaining did not work for me and the luck I was hoping would come by doing things that were too good to be real is a waste of time, this was when I realized that I have to take my life into my own hands. If I don’t want to waste away and I don’t want to remain poor things must change.
Nobody is coming
Some Nigeria on the platform will know about NNU and so many other platforms that came under it, I tried different things with some of these platforms, but it yielded nothing I realize that I am to be blamed for my downfall. All of my brothers that I was bitterly talking about have their lives and problems too, and they don’t owe me anything. The older I get the more I realize that is not easy for everybody. Everybody is just trying, especially in a country like Nigeria where it is not easy for anyone.
No matter how bad the situation of a country some people are still making it, all the excuses I was giving myself were irrelevant. If I don’t want to waste my life away, I have to develop ways i can be useful, create value, and also learn skills that would be beneficial to me. This is the way I changed my story. No matter how sad it sounds, the truth is that nobody owes you anything and nobody is coming to save you, some people who want to help you want to see the effort you’ve put into your own life before they show up.
Thanks for your time.
