I have seen people get comfortable in marriage and what I mean by this is when they get married They reduce the kind of energy that they put into making it work, simply because they believe their partner is now with them for life. instead of continue doing everything that makes them win the partner over in the first place they reduce it. I know this doesn’t happen to everybody but for most people, it is always very hard to be consistent, especially with something that takes out so much energy.
this also happens in another aspect of life especially when we are chasing our goals, when is getting difficult to achieve we decide to retreat or when is not going as planned we stop putting energy.  For some of us, it is not our fault because we were raised like that to stop doing things without having any reason or any good reason. when we are young, our parents tell us to stop things without explaining it to us and that is why we develop the habit of retreating, we can't constantly do something over a long period.
it is acceptable
Some of us are so lucky to see opportunity first but the main reason why we can’t make use of this opportunity is because we can’t be consistent, and this has always been a major problem of our life. We always retreat and in all aspects of our life, including marriage, spiritual life, and even making use of opportunities, we find ourselves retreating, the funniest part is that society allows it. sometimes you are surrounded by people who always give an excuse for not doing something they should be doing. 
when people face some challenges we turn these obstacles into excuses and give ourselves reasons to retreat, I realize that past events and our upbringing have so much to do with the way we are retreating because we are trying to secure ourselves, which is not bad and also trying to protect our self but these as done more damage than good. it has not only protected us from meeting new people who can be our helpers, but It has also killed many dreams leading to missed opportunities, inability to maintain relationships, and also retarded growth.
We all retreat at some point
most people retreat at some point in their life just because they get comfortable, and this is why it is very dangerous to be comfortable, simply because it reduces your level of consistency and also blocks your vision to go for more and it is human nature that when we get what we want, we feel comfortable and we retreat, that is why apart from having zeal to keep going for more sometimes you must mastered act of not retreating.
To have control over our marriage, financial life, our relationships, and our spiritual life we must be able to have a high level of consistency. We must keep the desire burning and keep applying the same energy every day even when things are not going as planned, we must never give up. This might take a lot out of us but we must keep going and never retreat. retreating will only become a habit over time and let us lose everything we have built. I know immediately we start having this kind of passion so many people criticize us and call us names,but it will put us above average.
Thanks for your time.
