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People crave for a relationship, but most of them don't even know how to start building one. Relationships don't grow, they cannot be picked just like a low hanging fruit on a tree, lesser can be changed like underwear. In spite of the fact it is true and only a few people admit its truth.
A relationship, an acquaintance build up like a staircase. The higher you get on it the deeper relationship you may have. But how could it be so deep if the foundation doesn't exist, if nobody steps up onto the lowest stair?
When we become acquainted with somebody that's the time when we can make our first step onto the lowest stair of the staircase, by looking for the congenialities.
This is when it becomes visible and sensible what we agree with, how we think along the same lines with each other and what it is why we like the other half. This could be a longer or a shorter period, a wide or a narrow stair.
After we have established that we agree with a lot of things, the engrossment of the sympathy, the understanding comes true. This is the point where we try to look for the things, where and in what we don't agree with each other.
We trust in the already have established strength of sympathy. If that first stair wasn't unstable and negligent, then both of us will understand each other and the difference in opinions.
If we accept the other half for who they are and the sympathy hasn't fallen then we can take our next step on the staircase. This is the stair of compromises.
This stair will be only born if we accept the other half and ourselves as well. This stair requires all the foundations that we have previously built up.
Nobody will make a compromise if one's don't feel that they are liked or loved. This is the reason why they will accept you, understand you, like or love you.
This is the stair of the settlement, because we have decided to stay with each other and now it starts taking shape how.
The "how" is the stair that brings you closer together "binds" you together with if you like instead of keeps you apart from each other. Again only if the previous stairs are still standing firm and you didn't skip them.
If the "how" can be solved or completed from both and if we are not afraid and we are really looking for solutions then this and the following stairs will not be a challenge for us.
Then step by step, stairs by stairs we can go higher and higher until we are eventually in a relationship, but there is a fundamental rule.
Never take over and never stay behind. We have to take those steps together on that staircase. If we don't do that then the understanding will turn into misunderstanding, the sympathy will turn into walking and turning away and the "how" will never be existed.
I am looking forward to reading your thoughts about this topic. I personally think nowadays it is very important to keep our relationship healthy and happy. I have seen so many short or long relationships falling apart.
