I cannot imagine what it feels like to be jilted twice...

But I can imagine what it feels like to be betrayed... Most days, I do not need to imagine it...

They may not be the same from the outlook, but I think that deep down, heartbreak and betrayal share one vital quality- a breach of trust.

Experiencing these makes it very difficult to form trusting relationships, makes it difficult to enjoy any existing relationships because the pain of betrayal was too much...and as humans, we are naturally averse to anything that causes pain.

Unfortunately, we live in a world where relationships are vital for our survival and one way or the other we would have to engage with people.

We can choose to erect a fence around us and avoid being vulnerable because we are scared of being hurt again, or we can hold our heart in our hands as we go along knowing that there will always be Judas's, it didn't stop Jesus from giving his life for humanity.

The pain of betrayal never completely disappears... Over time, we get better at numbing the pain, but we ought to realize that we can always choose what our response to betrayal would be.