I'm gonna switch gears and talk some issues that have been on my mind lately..
We do not live in a patriarchy
Domestic Violence
According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence(NCADV), 1 in 3 women, and 1 in 4 men have been victims of some form of domestic violence in their lifetime.. It's much more reciprocal than any feminist will ever admit.. If the rates are actually so close, why is it that there are next to no shelters for men, and thousands for women? For Decades feminists have touted Domestic Violence as simply "wife beating" when from the very beginning, one of the first women to ever create a domestic abuse shelter.. Erin Pizzey, has said the women she took in were just as violent, if not more violent than the men they were trying to escape. She was run out of her own shelters by feminists for suggesting this. Would a patriarchal society have no resources to help a man who is being abused? My tax dollars pay for women's shelters, and i believe that the number of shelters and who they provide services to should be based on the resources available and the need. So when there's a man who needs to escape a violent woman, he has options.
Paternity Fraud
There are laws in place that force a man who was lied to about being the father of a child, to continue to support the woman who lied about it.. It is legalized theft.. in which the victim can be sent to prison.. If you want gender equality, then you'd want women to be punished when they lie about who the father of their child is in order to get money from him. Would a patriarchal society allow this to happen to men?
Selective Service
The privelidge of being a citizen comes with the responsibility of protecting the country when necessary.. In a patriarchal society, where men exploit women for their own personal gain, and are advantaged above women.. why would men be the only ones who have to sacrifice their own life? In a patriarchal society, women would be used as human shields in combat, not exempt from combat.. that is more indicative of a gynocentric society where women are valued above men.
Reproductive rights
When a child is conceived.. what options does a woman have?
a. She can carry it to term
b. She can carry it to term and adopt it out
c. She can abort it..
No matter what she does, the system is designed to protect her rights.. and support her until the child can function on it's own.
What are men's options once a child is concieved?
a. Do what the woman wants, or go to jail.
A man can be forced into fatherhood before he is ready, but a woman can kill a chlid if she is forced into motherhood before she is ready. In a patriarchal society, women would be forced into motherhood, or forced to abort with no options once the baby is concieved.. it would be up to the man who knocked her up.. in our society it is absolutely the opposite.
Nobody is saying that a woman should not have control over her reproduction, but what we are saying is that a man should be able to have more control over his. All a woman has to do is sleep with a man, and she gets a free ride for at least 20 years.. at his expense.
Criminal court bias
"Men receive 63% longer sentences on average than women do," and "[w]omen are…twice as likely to avoid incarceration if convicted." This gender gap is about six times as large as the racial disparity that Prof. Starr found in another recent paper.
There is no excuse for men being sentenced to more time for the same crimes as women.. over time, it allows women to expect to have no consequences for criminal behavior, and it's the most blatant encouragement for criminal behavior.. and it is also not indicative of a patriarchal society when a man is sentenced to 63% more time than a woman.. just one more way in which the patriarchy theory is garbage.
Sexual assault/rape
"The CDC study goes much further in asking about specific unwanted acts. But there are other important differences. For one, CDC survey respondents are not asked whether anyone has used physical force or threats to make them engage in a sexual activity, but “how many” people have done this (in their lifetime and in the past year). This wording removes the extra hurdle of admitting that such a violation has happened, and thus encourages more reporting. But could it also create “false positives” by nudging people toward the assumption that the default answer is affirmative—especially when preceded by a battery of other questions and statements about sexually coercive behavior?"
Like I said before, they are expanding the definition of rape to make it look as though there is a "rape culture" of which men are the perpetrators and women the victims.. Not to mention, up until recently the definition of rape, excluded "rape by envelopement" which denied any time a woman forced a man to have sex.. thereby skewing the numbers in favor of only male perpetrators and female victims.. which is hardly reality.. in a rape culture within a patriarchal society, women would be raped all the time and nobody would care.. but in reality, nobody cares when a man is raped, and people actually think it's funny.. society is outraged when a woman is raped, because we value female life more than we value male life.
The definition of rape has been either "The carnal knowledge of a female forcibly and against her will" or "The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim." Which means that women cannot rape men.. in a rape culture within a patriarchal society, why would it be that men could not be the victims of rape?
Here's the ultimate difference in what I'm saying, and what feminists have been saying.. I'm not blaming all women for this. I'm blaming feminism for some of it because they have supported laws that make it more difficult for men to obtain even visitation of their children, they have used their influence to support primitive laws that make it impossible for a man to be raped. They have supported laws that make it impossible for a woman to receive consequences for crimes.. whether they are victimless crimes, or crimes against men.
They came up with ludicrous ideas like the patriarchy and rape culture.. using manipulated statistics, and men's biological desire to appease women to gain support. So while feminists are bitching about women getting cat-called by a small portion of the male population, there is man somewhere spending the rest of his life in and out of prison, and homeless because he got behind on child support payments on a child that isn't even his.. men have suffered in silence for long enough.. there are massive problems on the male side of the coin, and to deny that is reprehensible. We have dehumanized half of our population and then labeled them as sole perpetrators of every crime and every problem our society faces.
A big portion of the blame, however, goes onto men.. men refuse to speak about their problems, and because society for thousands of years has relied on men's willingness to die in war or work to keep society functioning.. we are immune to the suffering of men. Our survival used to be dependant on men sacrificing themselves in order to protect our society from threats and to do the jobs that maintain it. Nobody wants to watch how the sausage is made, but they're happy to eat it when they consciously or subconsciously ignore the suffering of the animal. It's a huge slap in the face to label all men as "toxic" or to label all men as "potential rapists" because of the behavior of a few men, especially considering how many hundreds of thousands of good men have DIED to bring us to this point, and continue to do so.. not because it gives them power over women.. but because they love women, and want to please them.
This is why feminism sickens me to the core, and my own personal experience with women, and the experience of other men I've met in my 37 years on this planet, reinforces every one of those statistics and stories I've attached above. Most men are invisible, and I guarantee you that if every working man in our country just decided to stop doing their part in keeping our society functioning, it would fall apart in a week. Men do the majority of utility work.. so no electricity, water, or sewer. Men are the majority of mechanics, and engineers.. so no transportation.. Men have created, maintain, and continue to innovate the majority of our technology.. so no more computers, cell phones, or any other form of communication.. the more dangerous and vital the job is to our society, the more people close their eyes to the suffering of the people performing it.. they don't want to see how they benefit from the risks those people take on a daily basis.
The biggest point I'm making here is that the evidence DOES NOT support the idea that we live in a patriarchy. The issues I mentioned above are more than enough evidence to destroy the idea that all men are oppressing all women in some male-dominated society.. there are places where women are at a disadvantage, but there are just as many if not more places where men are disadvantaged and suffer as a result.. this would not be the case in a patriarchal society.
