Most parents dont allow their children to get married while in school because it could hinder your academic performance as well as cut out some opportunities and benefits accruing to you as a young and single person; now that's fine; but you see, waiting till you're a graduate doesn't guarantee a successful marriage. You can be a graduate and also at an advanced age yet your mind set is like that of a child, your reasoning is somewhat retrospective.
Lately, many friends have been making crude, hilarious and unreasoned statements about marriage to me but I just look at them and smile.
Dear lovers of pre wedding photos, bridal showers, bachelor's eves and bridal trains, marriage has NOTHING to do with the aforementioned events, it has nothing to do with the ambience of colours you see, in fact the ceremonies do not contribute 1% to the success of any marriage. If you feel you're ripe for marriage, please think beyond these things.
Many people don't even have a personal relationship with themselves yet they hope to have a beautiful and life long relationship with their spouse, you cannot give what you don't have.
I am not saying you must be a perfect and ideal man or woman before you think of marriage, I'm saying that self love is the key to every successful relationship. Oscar Wilde once said that 'to love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance' and Bhudda also opined that 'if you truly loved yourself, you could never hurt another'.
Now marriage is you accepting to spend the rest of your life with a total stranger. It is a form of adoption. Before you rush into marriage or allow yourself to be pushed into it, remember you can't cry back to your biological family when your foster family begin to treat you differently.
Though love alone does nor sustain marriage, it conjoins together with understanding to yield a long lasting relationship.
Myles Munroe once said that 'the reason why many people are not married is because God is protecting other people from them'.
Would you love to marry yourself if you knew all you know about yourself? Would you like your spouse to be you? Would you be able to cohabit with someone of your kind? How would you tolerate others if you can't tolerate your own self?
You get angry at every opportunity you have and the only way out is for you to either break something, pull down something or scatter something. Now there you are asking an innocent child to marry you, there by offering his/her self to you as a sacrificial lamb to be broken, pulled, scattered or divorced whenever you're angry.
Before you think of getting married to someone, marry yourself first!
There are a whole lot of setups, risks and discomforts in marriage, but all these could be averted if only you marry your friend.
The question now is, WHO THEN IS YOUR FRIEND?
