Nice post, this is something I think about a lot as a mom. I try to teach my kids to be diplomatic and to solve their problems with words first, and to tell an adult when something is wrong. That is for the mild stuff. But if one of my kids is in real danger, like a few kids hitting them, or they are put in a really disturbing situation, then it is okay for them to fight back. I teach them which battles to pick and which to let go, because I truly believe one single moment can change a child's life forever.