I think it's very necessary that you state clearly what you need in a relationship before going ahead with it in the first. It's like going to a shopping mall without having in my what exactly you desire to purchase. You'll just end up picking and returning certain items over and over because they all look good and you are confused with the one to go with. For me I think that is similar to double dating, in love with two personalities but indecisive of which one to go with because you don't know exactly what you want in the first place.
Peace ✌️✌️