you are xxx living in xxx. There are two XXX you need to fill for yourself. For example A woman, A man, a THEM, a Technician, an Artist, A teacher, or something else. if you think you are an artist, you can not take engineer inputs directly. So you need to define yourself what you are. Sometime we like certain people advice due to their personallity but we forget that that they have a different background and point of view that it might not work well on our condition and our goals.

for the second XXX, if you are living in Indonesia, you need to be careful if you take in and believe in some great feedbacks from people who live in a lot different environment for example people from Canada, Germany, Japan or maybe some other nearby countries such as Australia and Singapore. I do not want to say its 3rd world or first world, rich countries or poor countries... the culture is different, the geopolitics are different, and definitely the community future are different. I do not say they are wrong or incompatible, their feedbacks and inputs can be great but you need to digest them more.

if you think live is getting complicated, I can only say that's how the world works, didnt someone else already said "welcome to the real world"?. It will get a lot more complicated later and do not expect things will get easier, simpler or happier by making good decisions. Life is a journey, just enjoy it as you write your own Novel. and don't forget, always seek for a happy ending