IT IS IMPORTANT...
Wisdom is important in our daily activities. Every of our actions requires decision and every healthy decision is orchestrated by wisdom. For the next three days, I'll be sharing a series on three areas where wisdom is to be applied and how they benefit us.
This message is not mine. I heard it and loved it and knew that I couldn't just keep it to myself. There are men and women who need to hear this. Trust me... Read to finish and you'd understand.
First is Relationship Wisdom. When i say Relationship, I don't just mean romance. Your friendships, family, work and so on. This wisdom is applicable to all areas.
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It is highly important to note the following about relationships:
A.Relationships can make or mar your life. Any form, be it romance or what, if it's not the right one, it'll destroy you.
B.Relationship can bring out the best or the worst out of you.
C.Relationship can bring you pain or bring you pleasure.
D.Relationship can facilitate your gain or guarantee your loss.
E.Relationship can bring you acceleration or guarantee your stagnation.
F.Relationship can contribute to your preservation or facilitate your destruction.
G.Relationships never leave you neutral; it is either adding something to you or taking something from you.
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Wisdom in Relationships:
1.Relate with the future in mind, not just for the moment.
2.Relate with positive not negative influencers. That is, relate with people who bring the best out of you.
3.Relate with people who treasure your principles and value your standards in life.
4.Relate with people who have principles and character you either want to assimilate or sustain.
5.Relate with people who see the treasure that is in you and are excited about you and what you represent.
6.Relate with people who brighten your vision and inflame your passion.
7.Relate with people who sharpen your potentials, amplify your strengths and suffocate your weaknesses.
8.Relate with people going your direction with similar destination as yourself.
9.Relate with people who speak the language you understand and understand your language. This doesn't have to be literal. What it means is to move with people who understand your vision, passions and dreams. And they can only understand this if they have the same.
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10.Relate with people who are not insecure because of your potentials, or intimidated by your success or profile. Unfortunately, this happens most in marriages. When the man feels intimidated by his spouse, his insecurities and doubts drag her down.
11.Relate with people who won't engage you in unhealthy competition and strife. Very common among the youths.
12.Relate with people who value you for who you are and not what they can gain out of you.
13.Relate with people who can cover your back and veil your nakedness. This means they have your back. When everyone stands against you they stand for you. They also don't humiliate you in public. For example, you make a mistake, they'd defend you in a public setting and correct you in private. This happens a lot with me and my cousin. Even if I'm wrong, she'd stand for me if we are outside, but once we are alone, she'd rebuke me.
14.Relate with people who multiply your joy and diminish your pain.
15.Relate with people who are friends indeed; which means they are there no matter the weather.
16.Relate with people who give you rest and peace of mind.
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Now, after going through this you might wonder, "where do we find such people?"
Thing is, they are always close and most times we ignore them because we focus on the wrong things. When a so-called friend implants an idea which is wrong both morally and mentally, that person isn't a friend. I have an example. A girl we(my cousin and I) referred to as a friend, had a sugar daddy. Before that, I'd already foreseen that she was a disaster waiting to happen and i told my cousin but being the naive young girl she was, she ignored me. Now, my cousin asked her for something and this girl told her that she could introduce her to her sugar daddy's friend. No matter what, that's not the idea you give a friend. Fast forward to two other friends we knew in the same situation. One is very promiscuous and she doesn't hide while her friend is reserved. Major opposite right? But guess what? When this reserved girl blurted the idea of sleeping with one guy for money, she received a hot slap from her friend. So hot i felt it...
It might sound impossible but it's so true. I was so moved by that especially when the girl started rebuking her and telling her not to even think about it. At that moment, I thought that no matter what, this girl was a friend. Even with the life she lives...
When you have to hide your real self from someone, you don't need that person in your life. When you feel suffocated with someone, you don't need that person. Your relationships play a vital role to your mental health and also to your success. Make the right choices starting now...
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