Many times, we tend to go all out for others. Maybe it's a way we're engineered as humans. You want to help that person out, or do that thing for that person, or get that thing for that other person. It's mostly about doing things, and many of those for others not oneself. Okay, not to exaggeratittle for oneself. People go out of their way for others, doing things that could even look unbelievable. It's a good thing, I must say. What essence is life if all that it was just, oneself?
However, in recent times, people are coming out to say otherwise, suggesting people should learn to put themselves first before bringing others into the equation. In a sense, I find it quite disturbing. This is because, when some of these statements are misunderstood, and are rather projecting selfishness in such a manner, or even with such intentions, and that says something else about our humanity. Of course, we all should look after ourselves as much as we do for others. But it shouldn't totally exclude others.
Nevertheless, I understand the point of the discourse and from what might be the sincere perspective as considered. Being “selfish” can be understandable then. Some people toil day in and day out, night and day, barely enjoying a good portion of the dividends. I saw a video recently on web 2 platforms, where a woman had to bring out her children outside the house, made them stand there while she enlightened them on the sacrifices of their father for the family; inclusive of her.
The moment was very touching and heartwarming. But it left a little concern from some people; that hopefully, the man doesn't break down at some point because of the daily work and efforts for the family. It was an overwhelming effort from him, costing him some little to major privileges. He feels that's necessary and finds fulfilment in doing that for his family; seeing them well cared for and doing well. It reminds me of how I've tried to sacrifice some things for others, be it family members or not.
There's the fulfilment, I must say. There's also the exhaustion at some point. Some time last year, I planned on giving myself a good treat with some good meat. I saw how much I've been doing, not just for others per se, but even for myself externally that I felt it was good to give my internal organs a good treat. Unfortunately, it couldn't happen. It's still on my list though. Haha. But I've done some things for myself. Things that I had to close my eyes, look away from other concerns, and/or people, and just do that.
So, there was this shoe I wanted to get, and this native attire I wanted to sew. Considering other people and things would be a hindrance, though I needed to get these things. I had to take that step to get them. I'm glad I did because they both serve me well today. And it would have been difficult for me to get them presently because of other important demands, even personal ones. Sometimes, these “selfish” acts are not material things or so. It could be having time to myself and doing my digital tasks or resting.
