Something to think about...
We all know of intelligence and the intelligence quotient (IQ). Those seem simple enough: the former is supposed to be someone's smarts and the latter is a number that's supposed to conveniently represent those smarts. These are very debatable things. What is intelligence anyway? And does that number indeed reflect someone's intelligence? Or, is it kind of a cop-out we conveniently place on people's foreheads...just a number of how well someone figures out the math problems, vocab questions, and puzzles which largely make up the IQ test? And, can intelligence even be measured? If so, with a number? Who knows? Professors will debate.
There's another term in the world of psychology called "emotional intelligence" or "EQ", which is what this post is about. Of course, EQ is also hard to pin down, but I'll try.
| A person with high emotional intelligence... | High EQ Example | Low EQ Example |
|---|---|---|
| Can perceive others' emotions. | "Mom can always sense when I'm mad, sad, glad, etc. even before I know it." | When you recently broke up with that long-time someone, the woman in the cubicle next door asks, "You're kind of a buzzkill. Why are you trying to bring me down every day? And check this photo of my awesome boyfriend!" |
| Knows how to interact with others at that time, or not. | "She seems sad, I think I'll just sit down beside her and be a friend right now. We can talk later." | That person who, when you mention that your job was just terminated in the downsizing, laughs and says, "Life's tough, Buttercup! Time to flip some burgers!" Hah hah. |
| Can sense his or her own emotions. | "This bothers me and I feel my anger growing right now." | "This voicemail is annoying me, annoying me, annoying me and my pulse is racing now, but I don't know why!" |
| Can manage himself or herself appropriately | "I'm really mad, but instead of breaking this teacup, I think I'll just go for a walk outside instead." | Throws Grandma's antique teacup and knocks a hole in the plaster wall, then texts back a nasty rant. (He'll later need to clean up and repair the wall.) |
Basically, high EQ is a loving dog. When we need a friend to just be with us, dog's just know.
Two things:
When I started LUVshares, I airdropped about 2,000 LUV to many people in a pretty random fashion. The focus was with Hive-Engine users because, I figured, they would be the most likely to know what to do with an H-E token...buy/sell,/give, whatever. I realize sending unsolicited tokens is a bit spammy. (I also know it's done continually in crypto and is almost baked into the crypto space. That's not to justify it, but I think that's a fact.)
One user sent back the LUV tokens with the memo "dont need this s***"
My point is, I respect that not everyone wants to receive the LUV token (or any others that might come their way unsolicited). This is a little bit of a flaw in the "appreciation token" arena...they come to you whether you wish to receive them or not. They come like junk mail in the mailbox, like spam in the inbox. I think most who receive LUV consider it a positive, but I'm sure not all do.
LUV is growing and it's growing faster than I guessed it would have. This is great and is in line with the mission. Yet, I do not want LUV to be used or perceived as spam. This is not entirely easy to delineate. One user loves LUV. One user "don't need this ----".
If you wish to quiet the LUVbot notifications:
When someone receives LUV from another Hive user applying the LUVbot, a notification pops up in the receiver's feed. I've recently shortened this notification to hopefully make it less obtrusive. Yet, it's there.
This morning, I noticed a well-known Hiver had received LUV from another Hiver. Great! Yet, on this receiver's feed, the notification had been "suppressed", so to speak. You can do the same.
If you wish to, you can quiet the notifications saying "you've been given LUV" (yet still receive the LUV token) by using the mute feature. This how-to-mute article by 
In the case of the @LUVshares account, the "you've got LUV" message will be grayed out at the bottom of your feed, like below.
And just by the way, that well known Hive user replied to the grayed out comment with, "Thank you for $LUV". :)
It's my hope that LUV is given with LUVshares' intent in mind: to spread love around the Hive blockchain. In my view, this means doing so with a high emotional intelligence. This is not entirely easy. The internet, and especially text-based internet, strips away many emotional and communicative signals. Maybe most signals. Things like voice inflection is muted and body language is blinded. Only the bare words remain to go from. I've heard that something like 90% of what we communicate face-to-face is not what we say, but is conveyed in other ways. Not sure how that number comes up, but I tend to believe premise it conveys.
I think we all can conjure an example of when we've received a text or email that seemed aggressive. Maybe we responded aggressively back, then, after getting into an email or chat tussle, later realized the words were not meant as they were perceived.
Or, consider that photo of a perfect family on a perfect vacation with a perfect newborn, that was shared on social media. Though it's likely shared pure in joy (and this is wonderful!) and it's likely shared without any malice, consider...a woman who always a wanted a family, but who is biologically unable to have a child and all alone to boot. Her response to that photo may be different than what was intended.
A side-story as an example...
A couple of years ago, a young mother of two, was in the grab-a-snack line after church one Sunday. I'd known her for years and watched her grow up, had worked with her husband, "Tom", and her son was in my Sunday School class at the time. As I focused on spreading cream cheese on my bagel, and to make small talk, I stupidly asked, "Hey, how's Tom?" I honestly was curious because I'd known him quite a while and hadn't seen him in a spell. I immediately knew I'd made a mistake. She paused and said, "He's fine." But, her body language was screaming inside. She turned and left the room abruptly. I felt terrible. Later, her mother spoke to me, just to "fill me in." Tom had left her, just a few days prior. He'd decided that he wanted no longer to have any part with his family and had "run off with his secretary." How cliché. The kids were with her and she was going to be the sole/main provider going forward. Wow. "How's Tom?"
I try to be very careful with my words in face-to-face time with others, except when spreading cream cheese. Nature is odd and amazing. I've had poor hearing all my life. I half-hear everything and half-miss things. Often, I say dumb things in responses because I receive the message wrong. This deficiency, I think, has helped me become better at sensing others' non-verbal language. The same way that a hole in the ground will eventually fill in to the level, one void gets compensated in another way. 90% of communication is not what we say? She said, "He's fine." She did not say that she was not fine at all. I sure missed the signals that one day in the church snack line. Applying EQ is not always easy.
When sharing LUV, my suggestion is to be authentic. Use your best EQ skills, give LUV when it has real meaning to you. Likely, a real, authentic note of some sort helps. I think most people will respect this.
So, (1) it's okay by me to mute @LUVshares if you wish. And (2), I hope that LUVshares users will be careful with sharing LUV.
Just something to think about...
Edit: typo and grammar.
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