This was a good post! I am a mother of five kiddos two of which are girls so I am always taking notes. My youngest girl is 1 and oldest is 9. I have already learned through my nine year old that my tone of voice with her does make a huge difference.
I have found myself getting more shouty lately due to all of the bickering between my kids . I try to work on having a supportive tone but sometimes it is challenging especially when dealing with hormonal changes (that comes with aging 🙄😌).
I agree that it is important to deal with emotions and not let them fester and build up into something that could be dangerous both mentally and physically.
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RE: How the Tone of Your Voice Affects Your Kids