I think this is good advice.

It is easy when falling in love to forget the importance of letting go before such compromises begin to change you at the core level. To freely give up on one's own self by depending on the other for the future is to also fail in balancing the relationship.

One of the biggest pitfalls I see in relationships is when one person communicates how they felt hurt by the other person's behavior, and they respond also with a hurt reaction. Things can escalate badly. Apologies demanded. Forgiveness is withheld. Grudges form. Expectations are made for the other to change to prove their love. The icy persona develops.

When neither person is strong enough to bear the natural behavior of the other without feeling negatively, this is either a sign of a need for self-development or incompatible natures. Do you have any thoughts on how to look at these types of conflict encounters?