I think genuine friendship is one of the most beautiful things that can happen to an individual. To have another person selflessly make you an important part of their life, care for you and your feelings, stand by you in good and bad times, have your back at any time, root for you, be there for you, make memories with you. I think it is something every person should actually experience and also give in return. If you have a real friend or friends in your circle, you don’t know the luxury you possess and you don’t know what God has done for you.
Growing up, making friends was quite easy for me. I was extroverted, super funny, liked by my classmates, and I used to engage a lot in social activities. As I proceeded to entering high school and my environment changed, it affected my outgoing personality and I became an ambivert. However, that didn’t still stop me from making friends because my outgoing and funny personality was kind of an inbuilt thing. So even with the environmental constraints, they still managed to shine against all the odds. I was a person cool with almost everyone, so I didn’t necessarily have a circle. I had a lot of people I could call friends and they could do the same, but if we were to be honest with ourselves, the friendship wasn’t so deep--they were actually my dear colleagues.
In the university, I was even more introverted because it was a different and bigger world. It was then I realized that I might actually find it harder than others to adjust to a change in environment, but I do wish it gets better. My time in the university would have been lonely, but I managed to make some good and real friends. There was this forum I joined before we resumed 100level, and I got really popular there (I am quite an extrovert so far its not a physical engagement) and made some really good friends that we glued together till now (
These are not all my friends, but these are the pictures I could find right now.
I got to realize that it is not everyone around you that you can actually refer to as a friend and that is why it seems as if my ability to make friends reduced as I grew older. Now, I do not really find it so easy to make friends as I used to. I am socially awkward, really shy outside, don't make first moves, and my social life is very poor to keep up with a new friendship I might have miraculously acquired, lol. It is not a thing to be proud of, but honestly, I am contented with the few friends I have.
The few friends I have are not even like a circle (We all have different relationships), but I like to keep things simple. I don't really believe there is a way to keep with a bunch of friends and you all will be very real with yourselves and have a really deep connection. I am a firm believer that "less is more" , so I think lesser friends brings more genuineness into the whole friendship. I have really really few friends, and that's a good way to keep it real, in my opinion.
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