I tried to find the root cause of why some of us are so stubborn when it comes to asking for help. I discovered, in my case at least, that it comes from a place of fear and frustration, taking me back to early childhood when my needs and pains were not heard and understood. Then, the little child "learns" that showing emotions and needs is wrong, that it gets them ignored and ridiculed. So that child will bottle them up, putting on a brave facade and being strong as they believe they have to be. Putting this adult facade when you are only a child is traumatizing. This is why when that child becomes an adult it will stubbornely refuse help. It comes from a place of pain and feeling like asking for help will lead them to the same situation of becoming invisible and not heard. Stubborness is our reaction to past trauma, trying to avoid a feeling of pain which we suppose will follow. The only thing which has changed, and our traumatized brain can't yet realize, is that we are no longer a child and the fact that we ask for help might make us get a response, a positive helping one, not the blatant ignoring we've got from our nonresponsive parents. Yup...it took me years to realize this. Still learning...and "unlearning"