One thing for sure, no one can heal you if you are not ready and not willing to, it is an internal job, a healer can only trigger your ability to heal but they cannot heal you unless you are not ready and willing to heal.

So so true! This reminds me of a saying which sounds something like this: before wanting to heal someone ask them if they are willing to give up to what made them sick...

I have found that an important sign of not healing is the presence of emotional triggers, of moments when you feel bad for how someone treated you ( unfair, cruel, rude etc.) and the way you choose to let it get to you. This is a sign of not healing. Also, when we sit in uncomfortable situations or come back to the same tormentor hoping for a change, when there is a clear sign of disrespect and lack of love. A person who has not healed will keep letting the clowns hurt them instead of asking themselves " what is not healed inside of me that makes me still want to go to the circus"? ...