“How do you settle an argument? It could be with a loved one, a stranger, or even a casual acquaintance. How you know when to fight back and refuse to back down? Or when to simply walk away from the fight? How do you make sure arguments don't lead to moments of regret? Share with us.”
Words are very powerful; once spoken, they cannot be taken back, and they have the power to settle a dispute or aggravate a situation. Our actions, on the other hand, speak a lot, as a person might say one thing and mean yet another by their actions or may even keep mute on a particular issue, and yet their actions speak volumes.
The major reason why some people can't bear to see each other face-to-face and have become arch enemies might be based on certain words that certain individuals have said about them to others and, as such, has resulted in intense battles.
Two wrongs do not make a right; therefore, whenever I am faced with a situation, I always try to remind myself that situations are temporary and will come and go, but the way we act and react towards those situations will determine our relationship with people around us.
So I try to do a mental check and ask myself, whatever the situation was, what if it were the reverse and I were the one in that person's situation? What would be my actions, bearing in mind what I would have done to myself being in their situation? This way I am able to control my actions and words towards people.
This is not to say I don't have deal breakers, but the fact that someone has offended me in the past doesn't mean I have to carry a particular mindset towards other people.
I once had a friend whom I trusted to do business with, and it turned out that he was cheating in the business. I suspected it but took no action until I was able to get substantial evidence of his deeds, and then I cut business ties with him. But this didn't mean that I didn't do business with other people, but we need an open mind to be able to accept people into our lives, especially when others have hurt you in a particular way.
Sometimes people need to be corrected and scolded for certain actions. This may be determined by the level of offense committed and the corresponding actions that follow. With a change in character, people can be given a second chance.
On the other hand, if a person has done something wrong or has been indulging in an act considered to be unethical or ill-mannered, then such a person could be let off in a polite fashion.
An effective method of conflict resolution for me is dialogue. As long as I can reach a compromise with whoever it is, then I believe the issue can be resolved altogether. There are special cases when your relationship with a person was meant to be for a while, and in this case, u two close parties may just grow apart because their goals and objectives have changed, so the natural closeness that existed between such people will just dissolve.
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