Wow! This post is full emotions and psychological pictures. It's alot to take in....i am really happy you pulled through despite the challenges and illness and i think you are a winner especially knowing you are still alive till date. I really think you should still bring your Dad to the house...he might not be able to recognise you or his granddaughter but i think the atmosphere will be beautiful with everyone inside the house together. But with the painting, I am really not a fan of white for a house paint but i really think you should go for what you like...the renovation is also necessary. This post has so much life in it