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I will start by defining what mental health is: a state of mental well-being that enables people to cope with the stresses of life, realize their abilities, learn well and work well, and contribute to their community.
I had a boyfriend, whom I am not supposed to call a lover, but I still call him my lover.
You know what they say: love is blind, but marriage will open your eyes. Thank God, mine didn't get to marriage; maybe by now, I will be in a mental home.
So my boyfriend was a control freak he wanted to virtually control everything you do in your day-to-day life.
It was very annoying, he does the things he doesn't want you to do. We don't attend the same church, and he wanted me to come over to his church when I refused.
He will look for a way to guilt trip me into doing his bidding. I don't know how to keep malice, but you see this: my ex-guy is the king of malice kingdom (if there is anything like that).
He will accuse me of sleeping with guys in my church,so that's why I don't want to leave my church to his.
If any call enters my phone, I refuse to pick it up; oh, that person is automatically my lover. I then decide to pick it up and ask the person to call me back
There must be something fishy I am doing with the person, you know, the annoying thing about the whole situation. If he refuses to pick up his call, If I insist, he will get upset do I know why he doesn't want to pick up the call.
If a female calls him and I ask who the lady is, oh, I am poke-nosing a lot. All the females in his contacts are friends, and he has nothing to do with them, but the ones in my phone are my lovers.
His female friends can call him any time of the day or night, but no males are allowed to call me at all. No male friends are calling me again; they must have been calling me at home, or I told them I was coming to his place.
This continued, I kept compromising and noticed he didn't compromise on anything that made me happy. Anytime I see him, I will just start frowning; my chest will pain me. I walk on eggshells around him.
Finally, I decided to call the relationship a quit, I first started doing things that made me happy, I relocated out of the state, and we both went to another very far from him.
I started life afresh with family; some people will be wondering if I am living with him, hell no, but how he monitors everything and everywhere I go was something I didn't like at all.
You can't imagine the peace I felt inside; my headache stopped, chest pain was gone. I can walk freely without having this feeling of being followed.
None of my friends are been harassed again. It made me stay far away from anything military men. These men are called narcissists, not military men but guys who behave like my ex.
This day, I do take vacations if I have off from work, go out for games, or visit the beach or pool just to keep my mental health in check.
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