There are certain decisions in life that require being patient. There are certain decisions you can’t just rush because they determine the course of our lives. There are certain decisions that make or mar us, and with those decisions, we need to take our time and not rush it.
We often rush certain decisions due to pressure and frustration. We often feel the need to change people’s view of us, so we want to make sure we are viewed differently. We enter that frame of mind and most people are living in regret because of certain decisions they should have exercised control over, or given time to manifest. We are often disturbed about how people see us, view us or what they think of us, so we hastily make some decisions which we shouldn’t.
Don’t ever rush marital decisions, which is one of many decisions we often rush. Don’t ever make a short-term decision over the long term. Take your time, you owe yourself that much.
I was speaking with a friend yesterday and I sincerely admire his determination never to yield to the pressure from everyone to get a girlfriend quickly. His mind is ready for marriage but he would never be rushed into it. He knows it is a decision he will live with for the long haul. He wants to do it right.
Sometimes some things don’t fall into place so as to teach us patience. Often times we force these things because we would rather want it now and save our face than to think long term.
His mother is ready, family members are ready and he has given them a sense of feeling that, he should be trusted and wouldn’t be rushed and they respect that. Not all families are like that I must admit. Some wouldn’t bulge and pressurize you till you break.
Having a boyfriend is not life’s ultimate achievement, so why lose your sense of worth because you want it now? Take your time with it. You will still have a boyfriend/girlfriend/fiancee. Every good thing takes time. You build over the years together and with all the experiences gathered over the years.
Take your time. Be intentional about who you allow into your space. We often time crave attention and we pick just anyone, even in friendship. The quality of friends you have around you will determine how far you will go and how long you will last. This is also applicable to marital decisions. If you pick a very good and understanding partner, you will be happy and grow through things together, but if you end up with the opposite, well, you should be contented with being a philosopher.
Whatever decision that is peculiar to you, whatever decision you want to make that you know your life depends on, take your time. What’s the point in rushing it? Patience is indeed a virtue. The better you wait, the greater for you, because the waiting game you skipped would be forced upon you later on when that decision turns out bad. From such experiences, it takes only a determined mind not to fold or be broken as a result of it.
Take your time, please. Do what’s best for you, and you.
Thank you for your time.
My pen doesn’t bleed, it speaks, with speed and ease.
Still me,
My tongue is like the pen of a ready writer.
Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.
