No one is an island. We all need one another. No man can make it out here all alone. True friendship has no class barrier.
We all need someone or people we can call friends. Why we need them is totally dependent on us, but whatever reason we need them, it has to be a mutual feeling and we should be able to do the same for them.
Most of the time, when we say someone is our friend, we sometimes focus on what we can get from them, rather than what we can give to them. Friendship these days are quite overrated.
Don’t say you love me unless you mean it.
As I have said before, I don’t like using idle words. If I call you my friend, be very sure I will hold you so and seek your happiness. Friendship requires a lot of effort and put efforts should be deserving of the accolade or the title. Friendship is sweet. A good friend isn’t the one that will come and check you up in jail (Don’t worry, you won’t have any reason to be there, just for illustration purpose), a good friend is the one that will sit down with you, look you up in the eyes and say: We messed up.
Most friendships these days try to stick around only when they are going well for you. Little stick around when you hit a bit of a temporary rock bottom. In a world where a lot of blame goes around, and loyalty seems to be a thing of the past, the true essence of friendship is being pushed back.
We should be able to do for others what we desire of them to do for us. I wouldn’t ask you to do something for me if I know I wouldn’t be willing to do that for you. It’s called friendship, not “forceship”. It has to be mutual.
I admit that we have different abilities and talents, all I am saying is, you don’t have to do exactly what the person did for you, seeing that we all love differently and we have ways at which we show affections to one another. The moment you call someone your friend, let your thinking change from “what you stand to gain”, to “what you stand to give”. Always have the giving mentality, because when you do, it makes the relationship easier.
Friendship is like a boat, willing to carry as many people as possible, that desires to go with it, but your attitude also has to be right. True friendship indeed has no class barrier. You can be friends with someone younger than you, people older than you, or even your age group. It is not about the years, but about the feeling that comes with having someone you can be yourself around.
I have a little girl as a friend. Whenever the mother brings her to my side, she leaves her mother’s hand, runs as fast as she could to where I am, and clutch to my legs with a sweet hug. Friendship means a lot to children. Children could meet a person today and would start calling that person a friend. The moment you also call them your friend, It sticks into their head.
The first day I saw this girl, I told her how cute she is, and I told her she is now my friend. The mother made me understand that day after, she would ask her and say, Are we not going towards that side today, mummy? I want to see my friend. That is what it means to them. What we should always ask ourselves is, what does it mean to us?
Your attitude as to how you handle your friends says a lot about how you value friendship and speaks a lot about your motive behind it. I love my friends. You don’t necessarily have to speak with them every day, but make sure you check up on them once in a while. There is a value we need to place on friendship. There is so much in the value of friendship done with the right motive.
Take a pause today and remember those whom you call friends that you have checked up on for a while. Don’t wait for them to be the one to check up on you all the time, take time to check up on them too. Imagine, if in friendship, we have people with this kind of giving and checking up on mentality, everything will be in a ceaseless flow.
There are some friends we can actually outgrow, especially when their influence gives us negative vibes or they make us worse. There is some kind of toxic friendship we need to shed. Friends should make you better.
Thank you for your time.
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Still me,
Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.
