Was like that in my youth as well. Would party and drink a good deal. Even after having a family. The wife would be the designated driver many times. Funny though that many of my old friends have changed with me as well. They no longer party it up either. Have grown beyond that wilder time. Thank God!
Hope your friend sees the light soon. For his own sake if anything. And yes, I would be clear next time.
RE: A visit from an old friend opens my eyes to how much I have grown