Good evening Community,
I feel like the line between a healthy desire and an unhealthy one is actually very thin, but you can tell the difference if you pay very close attention to really know how it makes you feel and how it affects your life.
For me, a healthy desire is something that pushes you to grow without taking your peace away, It motivates you, gives you direction, and makes you want to do better, but at the same time, you are still able to appreciate where you are, you are not constantly beating yourself up. It’s more like, “I want more for myself, and I’m willing to work for it,” not “I’m not enough until I get this.”
For example when you want to improve your career learn things or make more money that is a good thing, It gives you something to work towards, It gets you out of bed in the morning because you have something to look forward to, When this desire starts to make you feel bad about your life right now that is when it starts to become a problem.
A bad desire is never happy with what you have, no matter what you get it is never enough, you reach one goal. Instead of feeling happy you feel empty again because you are already thinking about the next thing you want, this becomes a never ending cycle where you are always trying to get something, You never actually get it, you are always running, but you never get to where you want to be and that is because of your career or the money or the new skills these things are what keep you going, also what make you feel empty like your desire, for a better career or more money or new skills.
One clear way to distinguish both is your level of contentment, a healthy desire allows you to be grateful while still aiming higher, you can pause and say, “Okay, I’ve done well so far.” But an unhealthy one doesn’t allow that, It keeps whispering that you’re behind, you’re lacking, you’re not doing enough, Another sign is how it affects your mental and emotional state. Healthy desires bring excitement and hope. Even when things are tough, there’s still a sense of meaning in what you’re doing, But unhealthy desires bring pressure, anxiety, and sometimes even comparison, You start measuring your life against others, and nothing you do feels valid anymore.
Also, look at your balance. A healthy desire doesn’t make you lose yourself. You still have time for rest, relationships, and enjoying life, but an unhealthy one can make you sacrifice everything your peace, your happiness, even your values
just to achieve something.
I believe the key to this is being aware of what you are doing, You need to think about what you want and why you want it, ask yourself things like "Why do I want this thing?" "Is this thing making my life better, Is it just making me worried?" "Can I still be happy if it takes a time to get this thing?" because the truth is, it is good to grow and get better, it is also important to have peace, there is no point in chasing something that will only make you feel bad in the end.
So for me it is simple, a good desire is one that makes you a better person while a bad desire is one that makes you feel tired and unhappy, one desire gives you something to work towards the other desire takes away the things that make you happy, and when you start to see the difference between these two kinds of desires it becomes easier to choose what is really good for you , what is really good for your life and what will make you happy in the end
what will make your life better and that is the key to making choices , that is the key to having a good life and that is the key to being happy , and that is what self awareness and desires and growth and peace are all about and that is what it means to have a healthy desire.
