Many people talk about forgiveness, but they understand it differently , for some persons they think that when you forgive someone it makes you weak especially when the person that hurt you doesn't deserve it and others believe that when you forgive , that it is a sign of strength because it takes a lot of courage and strength to let go of anger and to move on, personally I believe that forgiveness is big weakness at all , the real problem here is not forgiving, it is when people repeat the same wrong that they have been forgiven for.
When you forgive someone it just means that you are choosing peace over holding on to bitterness, when you are hurt by someone z it is definitely natural to get angry and feel disappointed, those feelings are human, but when you now carry anger around it makes you and everything around you become heavy and that's like not okay, because it will affect your mood , your thoughts ,house wellbeing , your relationship, even the way you see people around you but forgiveness allows you to let go of that weigh and to also give yourself a chance to truly heal.
Forgiveness is not forgetting and a lot of persons do this , forgiveness is not you allowing people do what they have done before, it is not agreeing to the wrong that they did to you,it does not mean that you allow them to continue hurting you the way they did, it just means you are not allowing the anger to control you, the truth is that in many cases , the one who forgives us the one that has true strength how ever anyone wants to view it, it takes alot of emotional maturity to look past your hurt and decide that you want your peace, if you let go of anger, it does you a great good than holding on to it, you get relief in whatever you do.
But then forgiveness does not mean people should take advantage of it, repeating same mistake after you have already being forgiven for it many times, now the problem is not about forgiveness ,it is now about the person that doesn't choose to learn from their mistakes and that you are not respecting the fact that you were being forgiven many times, that is why I feel that forgiveness should come with some type of boundaries , you can choose to forgive someone, and still keep your distance from them if they continue to do same wrong thing , forgiveness doesn't require you to put yourself in that same harm way again.
In life, everyone do make mistakes, no one is perfect, and there will always be moments when people disappoint each other, forgiveness gives people the opportunity to grow, to change, and to repair relationships that might otherwise be broken and without forgiveness, many relationships would not survive difficult moments, At the same time, forgiveness should be respected, when someone forgives you, it is a chance for you to do better, it is not an invitation to repeat the same actions.
In the end, forgiveness is not weakness, it is strength, maturity, and a sign of emotional control.
