...A PARENT'S LOVING ATTITUDE TO A CHILD IS DEPENDENT ON HOW MUCH...

..(Minsan, “pera-pera” lang din sa pamilya)..

..GIRLFRIEND:

..Hello, RelationshipMatters!
..
My boyfriend graduated last October 2019 at the age of 26years old, and finished on his own sweat and tears.

He has an online job to sustain his needs financially. But those years was not easy, because his mom asking him money eventhough he is the one paying his own tuition fees.

If he can't be able to give some, he will recieved a lot of hurtfut words.

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If she saw us ate outside or going out for fun, she has always something to say about US. Thats why my boyfriend has "hinanakit" to his mom because everything he did are always against to his mom's eyes.

But she is not like this to her other sons (who gave her money) except to my boyfriend.

His mom blaming me because his son is not the son he knew anymore.

Because way back when he is still 18 years old he worked in a Call Center Agent for 4 Years, and all his money will go to her mom or even give his debit card to her. He even renovated their house for 2 storey.

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I witnessed everything the struggles that my boyfriend went through. Kapag may problema sya sa pera, he asked his mom but palaging wala, walang pera. Every time na may problema sya financially family ko po nag papahiram sa kanya.

My family treated him great. Sabi pa nga nya sakin mas gusto pa nya dito samin kasi feel nya na at home sya kaysa sakanila.

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My boyfriend is now 27years old, kakastart nya lang sa job nya. He is starting to build something on his own, but earlier lang i guess na noticed nang mom nya may sahod na and his mom asked him money,

when he declined to it, she shouted at my boyfriend says "walang galang" and her mom chatted me something na his son changed because of me daw and she also chatted his son also na mas pipiliin pa daw nya yung BABAE NA BAGO LANG NYA NAKILALA kay sa sa kanya na sya ang bumuhay nong bata pa sya.

And take note even his RELATIVES thrown him hurtful words kasi daw hindi nag bibigay sa magulang, walang utang na loob.

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My boyfriend has now a stand po na bibigay lang po sya kung may sobra at gusto nya hindi sya oobligahin. Kasi for now, tatlo nyang mga kapatid ay may trabaho tas nag bibigay sa kanyang mom but why its still not enough.

Her mom doesn't know that her son is having insecurities for not being able to finish college on time. She doesn't know that his son is envy to his other friends for having a stable job, house or even family. She doesn't know that his son struggling right now for what to do first.

Now he and her mom hindi po nag kikiboan but don po sya natutulog tas aalis nanaman kapag oras na sa trabaho. Kung wala po syang makain don sa kanila (as always) dito po sya sa amin kakain.

My boyfriend doubted his self po na tama ba na unahin nya mo na sarili nya? At his age right now, gusto nya lang po na stable na sya.

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Sorry for sharing this to you. I just cant stand seeing my boyfriend uneasy and uncomfortable of the situation.

Noong panahon na bumalik na po sya sa kanila ay iba ang treatment sa kanya nang mom nya.

Kapag gigising sya walang pagkain, hindi po sya inaasikaso, kahit man lang tawag sa kanya sa kwarto nya na kakain sila, wala.

Pero nung nalaman nya po na may trabaho na yung boyfriend ko, heavy asikaso napo sa kanya, chinachat na po sya na kumain kana anong oras na.

My boyfriend felt uncomfortable nun but I told him na okay lang yan.

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Ang kinasama sa kanya nang boyfriend ko sa mom nya is that kapag may problema sila bahay. All his relatives will know. Sinasabihan nya lahat. Compound kasi sila.

Tas ayon masama na tingin sa boyfriend ko.

And higit sa lahat hindi po sya pantay sa kanyang mga anak.

If my boyfriend posted a picture on his social media account walang reaction.

Pero sa iba nyang anak i heheart pa.

I know this will sound a petty thing but those are one of his hinanakit po.

Parang iba sa kanila yung boyfriend ko. Parang hindi anak..

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Hi dear:)
Where is his dad?
Deceased or separated?

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Yes, minsan in some families,
MONEY IS THE TOP REASON WHY
YOU WILL GET GOOD TREATMENT from parents.

Or the reverse,
pag wala kang maibigay na pera,
not so good ang treatment.

that is why Leave and Cleave
EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY, FINANCIALLY
IS GOOD FOR SINGLES AND MARRIED peeps🙂