Causes of suppression

In many cases, the years of development of the oppressor are damaged by bad examples of parents or completely ignored by parents. Many oppressors come from households whose parents are cold, or indifferent, or, basically, teach their children to use anger and violence to overcome problems. Children who are raised in such an environment may not consider verbal attacks or their physical aggression as oppression; they might even think that their behavior is normal and acceptable.

A 16-year-old girl who had been bullied at home by her stepfather and at school by fellow students said that she became a bully while in junior high school in class 1. She admitted: "Basically, there was so much anger buried in me; I oppress everyone and anyone. Pain has a big impact. Once you feel the pain, you want to vent it to someone else. ”Although physical aggression may not be the hallmark of a persecuting girl, the anger behind her actions remains her trademark. *

Many schools have a large number of students from various backgrounds, who have been brought up in very varied ways. Sadly, some children are aggressive because they have been taught at home that intimidating and swearing at others is the best way to get what they want.

Unfortunately, such methods are often successful. Shelley Hymel, a dean of education at the University of British Columbia, Canada, has been researching child behavior for two decades. He said: "There are children who find out how to get what they want and unfortunately, bullying is effective. They get what they want — they get power, status and attention.

Another factor contributing to the spread of oppression is the lack of supervision. Many victims feel that they have no place to ask for help — and tragically, in most cases, that's how it is. Debra Pepler, director of the LaMarsh Research Center for Violence and Conflict Resolution at York University, Toronto, studied students in the atmosphere of the school yard and found that only about 4 percent of the persecution incidents teachers detected and stopped.

However, Dr. Pepler believes that intervention is a crucial action. He said: "Children cannot overcome the problem because this is a matter of power, and every time an oppressor harasses someone, the power of the oppressor increases."

If so, why aren't there too many cases of persecution reported? Because victims of persecution believe that if they report it, the problem will only worsen. Therefore, to some extent, many young people spend their school years in a state that is always restless and unsafe.