Hi dear friends of Steemit, it has been a really long time, hasn´t it? I think it's because I had really surrendered with this platform and to that is added that I am not very creative when it comes to creating new content and in a forced way, but I have decided to give it a new try and give myself a new opportunity since these thoughts and things that I have learned in my 25 years of life and keep learning daily and they cannot remain only in my mind, so today it occurred to me to share a little story.
Throughout these 7 years (due to many circumstances my time in college has extended a little) I have gone through many ups and downs, many moments of doubts and uncertainties, endless moments of stress where all I wanted was to leave everything and flee, but it was never a constant desire, something that was maintained through time, something that lasted more than 2 days, when my period of stress and exhaustion was over, everything was back to normal again, but the case of my best friend was not similar.
I met this girl in the first days of college, had been among the first 15 in the internal test of admission which was extremely difficult since the test was presented by more than 3000 people, she used to be quite passionate with the subjects, in the studies got high marks, but there was always a thorn in there, something that told her to quit, that this was not her thing, that she was just wasting time on something that was not what she really liked.
During the third year of the career after receiving some humiliation from a teacher, she left, but her parents were extremely upset with this decision and together with her large family had convinced / forced to return, they all told her to return, that more than half of the career had already passed, that there was not much left, that it was only an outburst, an impulse. In my case, I had not said anything, but deep down did not want her to give up because that was going to hurt me too much. She decided to return after a few weeks of absence and all the teachers had congratulated her for such a wonderful decision.
During the 5th year, less than 1 year before graduation, she decided to leave again and this time there was no external force to make her come back, so close to the end she could see firsthand that she did not want to spend the rest of her life doing this, once again all of her friends and family used their manipulative tactics, especially alleging everything her parents had done to make her reach that level, as well as saying: "But it's only a few months away and everything will change, you'll be all doctor ", not understanding that things are not going to get easier every day but the opposite and that if in medicine there is no love or passion, nor the greatest of efforts will be enough, careers are like love, it´s really unlikely to like it with time, what can happen is that you get used to it so much that it can be confused with love, when the truth is that you just feel comfortable in that place to move and go for more. , obviously there will always be moments of happiness, self-fulfillment, euphoria, but if the sad and anxious moments are greater it is because it really is not your thing, a university career is not supposed to be a kind of torture or punishment, I could really understand everything this to perfection since in many occasions also I had felt that way.
Later, some of her classmates even invaded her house and her relatives constantly phoned us to convince her otherwise, but I was really sorry that I had not let her go 2 years ago when she could still make her dreams come true. which was to study a language degree in another city, however by the time she retired it was no longer possible because the university had excessively raised costs and because of the situation of the country, transportation was scarce and paying for a residence was not something that she could afford.
She received harsh criticism from everyone, mainly because after retirement she was not studying or working, but rather putting her life and thoughts in order, which seems to be extremely difficult to understand, even from people from other universities who do not they knew her situation at all, it seemed like total madness to them, I feared that she would yield again because of the social pressure but it did not happen thanks to her strong determination.
In the end it turned out that while others were wasting their time criticizing her decision, she managed to complete all the necessary paperwork to emigrate (which is difficult and takes a lot of time) and ended up getting an opportunity to live for a while in Holland ( I will not give many details of how because I don´t want to disrespect her privacy) and now is studying the language in that country, working and exploring, she will soon be able to visit other nearby countries which is very close to one of her biggest dreams which is to travel to as many countries as possible.
While others decided to stay with a conformist attitude and defeat, she decided to move, decided not to settle for her real destiny or what their parents wanted, because although we understand that they only want her to be a successful woman, they must understand that studying a career that, according to popular beliefs, leads to direct success, is not the only way to be a successful person, because the key of success is passion and dedication, and I am very confident and I have great confidence that she will achieve it. She decided to grab the bull by the horns and guide her destiny by her dreams and beliefs and that is why I say my dear friends that it is never too late to start over.
