Humans are weird creatures. We exist in both planes, as if we were wired for both states of interpersonal relationships. On one hand, we seem to have a desire to have a one true soul mate. A person that was created for us as we were for them. Somewhere this thought is rooted in biology and in dogmatic belief. Then we have this biological urge to seek the best mate for the situation. The one the provides in what ever biological ways our body triggers on.

I have come to think we are both. I think we are built monogamous but to multiple people over our lives. As life evolves, our needs base changes as do our needs. Some, few but some, relationships can morph and change to accommodate the changing needs structure, but that is not the case with all of them. If we use Maslow and his hierarchy of needs. Most relationships will meet the two bottom levels, the basics, friendship would be this level. But as we rise into the love, esteem and self-actualization stages, our needs change as do our ability to provide for those needs to our partners.

Maybe I a full of crap, usually am. But has I have been writing, I have been thinking about something you wrote about ownership. Maybe we are less monogamous and more territorial. Keeping partners might be less about the stability of life and more about putting our flag in the sand.