You are right, while others might disagree, your are very right. What is more important to a child growing up? Being the center and object of all attention from one or both parents or being shown how a functional, loving relationship works and what it looks like. We all want better for our children, relationships are going to be a huge part of their lives. We should be providing a model for them to benchmark their future relationships from. Their parents relationship model should be the starting point for their future relationships. Saying all that, having children is an incredible blessing and we should bestow all the love and affection we can, just not at the expense of the person we have chosen to bring and raise those blessings into this world.
There will always be outliers, situations that don’t fit, and unfortunately they happen more and more in this day and age. Even in those situations, we must be a model for our children of how to get out and move away from, not just turn inward and focus only on. Our children many times walk the same path we do, it is important we show them a how we navigated that path so they can walk it better than we did and avoid the potholes that we stepped in.

Sorry kind of roamed all over the place on that one. Hope I found my way back.