I have communication rules that I abide by. They're not rules per se and I don't expect of them from people with whom i chat with. Or maybe, I just don't care about how poorly or good another communicates. But for myself, there's a few things you may not find me compromising upon. Some I learned, others just have been my way.
Personally, I believe that being able to communicate properly is very essential but then, some people might think that there are no more art/rules to communicating and as such, anything goes. I don't quite agree.
I prefer to text. It kind of gives me better time to process the received message and give a suiting response. In the moments before I give a reply, I quickly and smartly try to decipher what tone of voice was used in conveying the message. It's important to me that I get it in the manner that the sender had hoped.
My text pattern is pretty simple and basic. Nothing ambiguous. Chatting is supposed to be fun(depending on the context) and I try to make sure that mine is. I give no rules, I don't try to correct anyone, just as fae as I get the message. However, for me, I know what I can't do.
One of which is to start a message with 'Hey.' I don't know, I just don't like it; comes off a little dismissive amd maybe off-handed. And there's just something about the tone when i read it. I get it a lot, which I don't mind, but I never use it.
Just following that is, not saying a greeting. I just can not start a conversation with a person without a proper salutation. It doesn't matter to me how close we are, it doesn't matter if I'm far the older person, I still do the needful. We could skip all of the other 'how are you' and complementary pleasantries, but not this.
Another thing is beating around the bush. All of that ',hi' or 'good morning' especially from people I'm not very cordial with without going straight to the point tires me out. I'm hardly in the mood for small talk. I hold good conversations but I tire out easy. A fact to know is that, it's easier to pursue a conversation when it's all spelled out from the get-go than when it's all coming in bits.
And yes, I could not have missed this. The use of shorthands. Too many times, I've had to ask what certain shortened words mean. Writing that way, mostly comes off shabby and make my eyes spin. I enjoy to read words in full, they seem to say, 'I'm with you in this discussion. Let's have this chit-chat.' Imagine using wlcm for welcome, hbd for happy birthday, kul for cool, ryt for right....arghh. It's a lazy way.
I used to have a problem with the use of ok instead of okay, but i realized it wasn't so terrible, i just thought it lacked effort. Still wont use it though. Shortened words are messy. However, just as far as I understand what the other person sends, I don't mind.
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