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Today, I will present you with a detailed explanation of the prompt given by the ladies of the hive community, without so much ado let's dive in!
I have written an article where I wrote about my position in my family and even how many we are. In a family, does the position matter amongst siblings...?
What I think is of utmost importance in a family is “respect and love” With those two virtues I quoted, a family can strive perfectly.
Being the first or the last in position doesn't need to tally or range from the hugest responsibility to the least of all responsibility, it is a family right?? All hands should be on deck when it comes to a family situation or matters arising every opinion, input, suggestion, and feedback is necessary for the growth of the family.
The first position in the family is just like every child brought up by the parents who are the guardians, they should not be fully entitled to heavier responsibility because it is a burden to them and will continue to weigh them down by preventing them to soar.
Mind me, this is not applicable in every family, I am saying this from the perspective of what I have witnessed in most African homes especially " in Nigeria ".
Not all parents realize this honestly, they just feel like the first child is the one who carries the mantle of the family, yes in some cases they need to feel responsible so they are shaped to undergo this task.
Here comes my theory, I am the first child of a family of seven (7), including my parents. This is to say I am the first person to take 1st position in the family before my brother who I lost years ago came in.
Then my sisters including the last Lil sister and a junior younger brother came in, then the reproduction cycle closed.
So over some years now, I am seen as a savior to take care of my family when I need saving! I worked as a sales representative in a cosmetic store, and my salary per month as of then was about $30. Each month when being paid, I use half of my money to get food items in the market. Stuff like vegetable oil and palm oil 5 (liters each) know Maggi cubes( full sachet), 5 to 6 tubers of yam (large), rice, beans, onions, sachet tomato paste in dozens, spices etcetera and before you know it, I have tucked my hands inside the one I kept for myself to buy some necessary items every girl child needs like sanitary wares i.e the pads, panty liners, body deodorant, body spray, soap, creams and also things like changing my hairdo asf!
Before I get this all done, the savings account will be left with nothing, this continued for months, months into years until I realized I have no reasonable savings as a human. It hurt me so much because most things I do for myself my parents had no time for, only what they think about their daughters is to get married to a rich man and be a mother. That is mostly the impact I get every time and it is very annoying.
Marriage is beautiful! don't quote me wrong... it is a commitment of life that gives a woman peace of mind but not everyone desires to get married so early without trying to achieve something and that is just me, I don't want that pressure so I made plans to break myself out of the house and so it did.
Worked for several years trying to put income together to form capital, so that I could put myself through university.
After enrolling myself in the university without any help from my parents, for once in my entire life, I feel free to make decisions for myself because I realized I have been so sentimental that anything little thing they tell me at home, I don't hesitate to give in some amount of money.
Being the first position in my family, things haven't been so rosy for me, it's just a season of an unending rollercoaster of burden. I have no one to call for financial assistance, and still, yet, they look up to me. This hinders me a lot from making bigger plans for my future because I can't stop thinking about my family's welfare, it bothers me a lot not seeing things working in my favor. No matter how hard I try to keep them at a distance, I still feel those responsibilities when mom calls. I guess that is what makes me humane.
All I know for sure is that I won't have any problem whatsoever if my streams of income are coming in large or periodically, that way it will be easier to fend for them.
My Experience
Well, I will start by saying, I am who I am now because of the responsibility and the challenges I faced. The experience made me prepared for the woman I am going to be to my future husband and my future beautiful kids. It humbled me in some aspects of life. I don't know who has that quote that says " every disappointment is a blessing in disguise " but it meant something at the end. So, I would say to all my beautiful ladies of hive that no matter the challenges, disappointment, and rejection you faced at work or anywhere, it would make sense someday, you will finally puzzle every part of those things and it will make perfect sense to you.
Hindrances
1️⃣. It definitely caused my delay in the progression of savings.
2️⃣. I wasn't aware that I had lost track of time, till I realized it.
3️⃣. It almost hinders the time of my youth as I was only making ends meet to take care of my family.
4️⃣. It made me not feel among my peers and social lifestyle but it made me stand strong, alone, and mature.
5️⃣. It obstructs me from making solid decisions and standing by them and resulted in a series of procrastination.
6️⃣. Because I am in the first position, I had a motherly picture/figure, endure, tolerate, scold, smack and love, all nice virtues though it almost consumes my youthful exuberance.
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