One thing about life is this: there is always something to worry about.
While one person is thinking about the future and how to live comfortably, another is chasing luxury. Someone is wondering what to eat tomorrow, while another is thinking about how to afford the latest car. Everyone has something on their mind, and it is not always about money.
The stage you are in life determines the kind of pressure you face.
As a teenager, my biggest pressure was football. I hated being mocked because I wasn’t good enough. But everything changed when I traveled to another state because there, I was valued. My skills were recognized, and it boosted my confidence. When I returned home, people saw the improvement too.
Then came adulthood… and the pressure changed.
Now it was about survival, making money, paying bills. At some point, I got tired. The work I was doing wasn’t enough to foot my bills, not even close. I doubled my hustle and eventually started earning more than I spent, but I was overworking myself. And if care isn’t taken, the body will force me to rest.
Then life shifted again.
Just when I was getting exhausted, I found Web3, and things changed. I began to live more comfortably. But Web3 is seasonal, with green days and red days. Many people don’t understand the importance of taking profits and preparing for tough times.
And then… fatherhood. A whole different kind of pressure.
It is no longer just about you. There are mouths to feed. You can’t manage life the way you did as a bachelor. Your wife and child must eat. Pampers must be bought. Clothes must be provided; responsibilities don’t pause.
Fatherhood is real pressure.
And honestly, I understand why some men are scared of marriage or bringing a child into this world now…
It is a different game entirely.
I was discussing with a friend of mine, and he wasn’t even sure if he regretted getting married because of the pressure. Things haven’t been going well, and with the bad cryptocurrency market, it has been exhausting for most of us.
The truth is, fatherhood is a stage we can’t run away from forever. We might avoid it in our 30s, but then we will face it in our 40s or 50s, unless we don’t plan to get married or have kids at all.
And I believe it is better to face those challenges now that we are still agile and full of energy than to start having children at an old age. As for me, I want to be financially free before I clock 50 years old, and I want to be almost done raising my kids by then. That period should be the time to enjoy life and worry less about responsibilities.
One of the biggest truths about life is that money solves a lot of problems. When there is enough money, most of the pressures we face reduce significantly.
Shout out to all fathers, newly married men, and everyone carrying responsibility on their shoulders. You are champions. And I pray that things become easier for all of us.
Just call me Burl.
I am a professional gamer, motivational speaker and a crypto enthusiast
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