Your list of reasons why most people will never be self-reliant is correct, however it does not get to the cores, the real reasons their is very little motivation to become self-reliant.

• Normalcy hates you: You are a doomer. You are a conspiracy theorist. Oh, is the sky falling chicken little? You really have to go against most social programming
• Things are made to get in your way. Cars, stuff, things, everything at wallymart gets less and less easy to repair. You don't get something you can fix, you get something that will break on you when you most need it. The world seems designed to be against the self-reliant.
• Most of the things you can do to be self reliant, do not pay the tax bill. Making that little bit of cash used to be extremely hard. Out in the middle of nowhere, the people around you had very little cash, so there was no easy way to raise money to pay things that require money. However, the internetz have made this a lot easier with gig economies showing up everywhere.
• You will never get a girl. Telling her you are an investment banker, and the women are all over you. Tell her you are a farmer, and you only get a small section of women who will even want that. (but of course, the women who want that are better women)
• And the feeling alone... well, in the future, communities will come together, and self-reliance will be the name of the game. But getting to that time seems to be a very lonely journey.

I have thought of going to the Self-Reliance Festival or something Spirko puts on, but i know most of what the speakers talk about. But how do you get to be known that you are on that level, when you are not very good at communicating? You seem like an upstart. Jack calls you an f*in kook.

I am glad that you went, and i really hope you enjoyed it.