Do you know how many times you have said "you are just not seeing" "you don't get" "you just don't understand"... ?

i suggest you remove those from your vocabulary.

It may be that i have thought upon this problem longer and harder with more brain-power. And so, you are trying to tell a master about what they should have learned in kindergarten.

Anyway, what i am speaking about is why your blueprint fails.
To paraphrase you, "Emotions are not important to a marriage".

That sounds really silly, however, you are ignoring a huge problem with people.

Or, maybe you can look at it this way.
Why are welfare people all fat and lazy? They have everything paid for them, why aren't they giving their time doing what they love and making things?