Not that complicated...most of us would agree ish...
The more sobering question is what are you hiding and why? You are probably doing it for the most part subconsciously, maybe there are a few things you are intentionally withholding. But why?
What exactly does keeping things locked up within you really do for you?
Stop and think about this for a second.
In my experience holding things within creates and increasing sense of shame, fear, insecurity and ultimately enables powerlessness as I give my choices over to this dragon of hiddenness. The power in my life and in anyones life is dictated by their ability to make their own choice.
I grew up as the 3 of 4 boys in my family. Watched my oldest brother in particular test all the boundaries, get caught and try again. I quickly learned about to avoid detection and my teen years were marked by avoiding particular authority figures, generally doing what I wanted and faking sorrow when I did get caught.
The result is that I was in a perpetual state of hiding. Nobody knew, especially my parents, depression and loneliness were always creeping and I had an untrue view of myself. I thought nobody liked me, I didn't amount to anything, and girls would never really be attracted to me.
I never allowed anyone to get close enough to see my junk, insecurities, failures and brokeness. Even if someone wanted to really love me I was too busy hiding to let them. I was giving my choices over to my hiddenness. Choosing counterfeit safety over real human connection and freedom.
If you saw me in high school, you would have seen a good student, generally moral, treated people with respect and was a two sport state champion...my internal pattern of destruction just didn't surface until i was 20...thats for another time tho
I hate what hiding did to me, and I hate what it is doing to people all around the planet.
I would ask you again, what are you hiding. Shame and fear are not your friend. They steal your choice and slowly make you impotent to real life, real adventure and most of all real human connection.
It could be something that you have done, it could be something that has been done to you. You may need real help and support in taking on your dragons. The amount of abuse is not decreasing in our society, and the idea that you will be better one day is a freaking lie...
I am sure you are not going to make it alone with any sort of life worth living...
Another thing in particular for young people (under the age of 30).
You have had a smart device just amount your entire life. You may have developed a pattern of using social media as a fake connection. It looks like throwing some out on your fakebook for instashame account and looking for people to validate you with their likes or comments.
What it really is doing is making you feel better for a second, while not actually allowing someone into your process.
The hiddenness and loneliness continues, slightly amplified because you feel like people know you...kinda...its really weird because theres an entire generation that for the most part older people do not understand...
Anywho - my encouragement to you today is:
Stop and ID anything you may be hiding. Write it out on a piece of paper, it may be intangible feelings and ideas in your head, it may be things you have actually done or been done to you.
Take on the courage and make a gameplan to bring someone or someones into each item you wrote down.
Do not downplay any of the things you wrote down. We often have this idea that 'it's not that big a deal' or 'nobody will really care about that one'. Ridiculous. You matter and minimizing your hiddenness now will only allow that dragon to grow...
Thanks for reading friends...feel free to pass this on to anyone that may need its. If you are living a life of power, of being known and seen, then open your eyes and see the people hiding in plane sight right in front of you...you will be surprised...
Rock on! Happy Sunday! Live Big today and Dominate Life
