You may have read some of my writings on “time efficiency.” When I talk about time, I will often point out that we all start the day with the same number of finite seconds, 86,400.
Time is a limited commodity and as such is our most precious.
However, there is another very precious commodity that is unlimited and can benefit you and those around you immensely when used correctly.
I say used correctly, because often it is unknowingly used in manners that are harmful, instead of helpful.
That commodity is “PRAISE.”
Let me explain.
Some people will deliberately tear other people down to build themselves up, but this isn’t what I’m talking about. When a person does this, they are attempting to bring the focus back to themselves’, not actually praise someone else at all.
If for example you say to someone, you are the; “hottest, funniest, best, smartest,” you are comparing this person to other people, thereby tearing down other people.
You may not even know that this is what you are doing and likely, it isn’t what you mean to do either. (not like the first example above)
Additionally, when you use comparisons to praise someone, you can subliminally put the person in a negative state, because they start to compare themselves’ to others in ways that are not healthy or helpful.
A better way to use praise is to give someone a directly message that doesn’t use a comparison.
When we give praise that is authentic, sincere and meaningful, everyone benefits. Additionally, when you give praise, it must be done without any expectation of reciprocal praise.
Of course, the person receiving the praise benefits from your message. However, you’ll also benefit as it will start the foundation of positive communication which will help you feel better about yourself over time as well. (even instantly in many cases)
So how do we give praise that meets the criteria I’m talking about?
So rather than telling the person, “you were the best speaker today.” (comparing the speaker to others); you could say, “I can really see how using your techniques are going to help me change my habits.” Or, “You really cleared the air on “x topic” so I really get it now.”
Avoid “comparisons” when praising someone. They and you will feel better all the way around.
And, add praising different people, several times a day to your routine and you’ll have a bigger smile on your face than you did the day before.
Try it for a week and you’ll see what I mean. I guarantee it!
And if there are other habits you’d like to change, and you’d like to create your life, “on purpose,” be sure to check out my Achievers’ Formula. The simple techniques will have you creating powerful habits in your life what will change it forever!
