Frame Control 101:
Everyone has their own perception of the world. It is your perception of the world that creates your emotional experience. Perceptions become a self-fulling prophecy. If you believe that you are tired then this belief in itself will make you more prone to being tired. If you believe that the food is cheap then you are less likely to enjoy it.
It is extremely important to have strong frame. A strong frame is sexy to women. Confident men have strong frames because they believe in their ability to make accurate decisions and perceptions of the world.
A strong frame is believing with intense conviction in the truth of what you are saying to her and your belief system. Once something comes out of your mouth, you have to own it. Talk with absolute certainty. Remember: confidence is sexy; self-doubt is disgusting.
Women unconsciously desire to be led by a man who is certain that he is entitled to her and that he is taking her to a better place. Yet if there is any visible doubt in the man then she will be turned off. When communicating ideas, confidence is the key factor that determines whether or not your words will be accepted. In a battle of frames, it is usually the frame that is projected with the most conviction that will win over.
Women do not respect men who they lead physically and psychologically. You should be leading in both regards. It is essential to have a stronger frame than her because it is part of being the dominant one and not the submissive one in the social interaction.
Confident men have strong frames. They do not easily compromise their views in the face of resistance. Women do not respect men who have weak frames. After all, if a man easily changes his opinion to match hers then this demonstrates that he wasn't confident in his own perspective to begin with. If he can't stand up to her then how will he stand up for her? If he doesn't believe in his ability to make accurate decisions and perspectives of the world then he probably has a history of faulty judgement and is not successful.
Her frame may as strong as a blade but your frame must be even stronger.
Let her be pulled into your reality; not the other way around. This is the mark of an Alpha Leader. He does what is right according to his own belief system; his frame of reference is himself. This is the opposite of the beta male who seeks permission from women before acting and asks insecure questions like "Is this okay with you?" or "Are you having fun?" Or he is reaction seeking and seeks out her approval immediately after acting like a puppy desperate for ego-validation. The very fact that he is asking the question, seeds the idea that there is a significant possibility that she could say "no". A healthier frame is to assume the sale.
An Alpha male leads with certainty. Although intelligence is important, it is conviction in his frames that is the primary factor that gives the leader the ability to lead. Woman want to be led by a warrior more than an intellectual. Be a warrior. Believe in yourself and your ideas.
Part of having a stronger sense of reality than her is being in a world that is far more enjoyable than her world; this is part of a larger concept of being at the cause and not the effect. This baits her to psychologically be leaning in and wanting to be a part of your world; instead of the other way around.
The map is not the territory:
One can argue: "How can one act and talk with certainty when there is so little of the world that we actually understand?" "How can one have intense conviction when there is always a possibility of being wrong?" The answer is that one must act on approximate truths until more accurate truths are to be found. After all, there is always more information to be collected about any subject. One's perception of the world is never complete. In NLP this truth is harnessed in the maxim "The Map is Not the Territory". One's map of the world is never exactly as the territory.
It is important to be aware of the limitation of one's knowledge because a full cup cannot be filled more; one who thinks that he already knows everything is not open to learning more about the subject. Arrogance is a trait that is not conductive to learning; humility is a trait that makes one more receptive to learning. Although one should be arrogant when interacting with women because narcissism is one of the dark triad traits that women find attractive, it is important to be humble when one analyzes his approaches afterwards.
For the necessity of attracting women, it is necessary to convey these approximate truths as absolute truths because women are attracted to portrays of confidence - even if these portrays of confidence are not based on real substance. It is better to bluff confidence than to appear insecure. Remember: a woman's attraction is not a choice. It is based on desire and emotions; both of which are irrational. Although projecting approximate truths as absolute truths is not the most rational course of action in terms of gaining knowledge, it is nonetheless more attractive than flashing signs of insecurity.
One immediate practical application of projecting a strong frame is to eliminate words like "maybe" and "I think". When talking to women, talk with intense conviction, certainty and self-assuredness.
Analysis Paralysis Definition
Yet if one were to wait until he learns everything that there is to know about dating before acting then life will pass him by. This phenomenon of waiting for more information before acting is known as analysis paralysis. There comes a point when it is necessary to simply act even though one lacks a complete understanding of the situation because perfect is the enemy of good enough.
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