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As a single lady who is not married yet, I’ve often thought about the kind of mother I want to be in the future. I don’t have kids now, but I believe it’s never too early to start thinking about how I would want to raise them when the time comes. I know life doesn’t always go as planned, but having an idea of how I want to bring up my children is something I take seriously.

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Growing up, I went through some tough times. My family didn’t have much, and I had to learn a lot of things the hard way. Sometimes I wish things were easier, but at the same time, I believe those struggles helped shape me into the woman I am today. I learned to be strong, to work hard, and to appreciate the little things in life. But even with all those lessons, there are still some experiences I wouldn’t want my children to go through.

I believe in balance. I don’t want to spoil my children and give them everything without effort, but I also don’t want them to suffer just to learn a lesson. Some people say kids must go through hardship to understand life, but I believe there are better ways to teach them. Yes, they need to know that life is not always easy, but I can show them that through guidance, love, and open conversations not through unnecessary suffered

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For example, instead of letting them face hunger or neglect like I did at times, I’ll teach them about responsibility and hard work by giving them age-appropriate chores, setting goals, and helping them work towards those goals. I want them to understand the value of things, but not by depriving them. Rather, by teaching them gratitude and the importance of sharing with others.

I want to raise children who are kind, confident, and emotionally strong. I’ll encourage them to speak their minds, to express their feelings, and to know that it’s okay to ask for help. I want to be the kind of mother they can talk to about anything without fear. That’s something I didn’t always have, and I believe it can make a big difference in a child’s life.

Also, I plan to teach them about life in a practical way. Teach them how to manage money, how to treat people with respect, how to stand up for themselves, and how to make wise decisions. These are the things I wish I learned earlier in life.

In the end, my goal is to raise children who are better than me not just in education or finances, but in character, self-love, and understanding of the world. I know I won’t be a perfect mother, but I’ll do my best to give them a better foundation than I had. They may not have to go through everything I went through, but they will surely understand the values that matter most.

So, for me, it’s not about repeating the past or erasing it completely. It’s about taking the good, learning from the bad, and building a better future for the ones coming after me.