Absolutely correct! It comes from the privilege discussion, at least that's what I think. Which is a valid discussion, I could write a whole post about how that has been perverted from something meaningful to a sledgehammer argument.

And I wish that more people were like you in this matter, which is what I describe as the truly empathetic here. "Doesn't matter the 'quality' of the suffering, I'm with you."

As for the complete douches, I kept thinking about that last night. Haven't really figured it out yet, as that is a judgement, too. But maybe there's a difference between judging the actions of someone and judging their self. But I'll have to keep thinking to come up with a theory.