I'm a one guy kind of girl with no reason or desire to look anywhere but directly at my partner. He ticks every box, makes me happy, looks out for me and fills me with desire.
We have fun, are silly together and work towards a better relationship and life each day. We disagree sometimes, that's normal and healthy I think. Does he make me so mad I sometimes want to strangle him? Yes, but that's also healthy, as long as I don't actually strangle him, and I probably make him feel the same way in return - I know I do.
Mostly we're together, physically, emotionally and spiritually...we share an attraction that just works perfectly for us.
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I'm attracted to my partner physically.
He has always maintained his fitness, looked after his health and body, is well-groomed, cares for his appearance and about what he puts into his body. He's not the, my body is a temple, kind of guy, but generally takes time to look after himself and dress well; the result is that he looks good, in my opinion at least.
When we first met I thought so too. The man was rather splendid and I didn't mind looking at him, a lot which, fortunately for me, he liked to do in return. Here we are, still looking at each other and feeling attraction but the attraction I felt for him then and feel strongly now isn't about the physical aspects, his face or body; those things are not important to me. The attraction I feel for him goes far deeper and that's the sort of attraction that lasts.
I'm attracted to the way he moves, how he carries himself, with such ease and confidence that doesn't at all seem like arrogance; there's a difference between the two.
He is sure of himself and who he is as a man and human, his intelligence, wisdom, strength and ability. He exudes a vibe or attitude I guess; not an arrogant self-appreciating attitude, just one that makes me feel safe. The way he does this...it's something inside that pushes outwards, not a physical thing. A person can't go to the gym and build it, it's built in a person's heart and soul, and in their mind and one can't fake it. It's attractive.
He is so funny, I loved that from the first instant he showed me his fun and humorous side, which was often. Sure, he's more serious by nature these days, but with me he's always been a funny man, quick to laugh, make others laugh and one who is able to laugh at himself. It's attractive.
My guy is generous and caring. With me he has always seemed so but I'm not the only recipient of his generosity and caring nature.
He is selfless at times, eager to help others, often to his own detriment, and he cares about people. This comes out in various ways, but one I love so much is his need to protect those who cannot protect themselves; watching it is wondrous. He lifts people and helps them move towards their best version. He does this with me also, and it makes my heart burst with love. It is attractive.
Humility and kindness is something I've long held in high regard; I don't value bravado or boasting or people who hold themselves above, or as better than, those around them. It's repellent. Humility and kindness is something I saw in my boy the day I met him. He was humble and treated those around him with kindness and caring. It's a strength, the ability to be humble, it shows a certain comfort in oneself and humility leads to kindness; he carries it proudly, like a badge. It's attractive.
My man is well mannered and courteous. He holds doors, says please and thank you, helps me get off the escalator, those things always freak me out. He offers to help, to share the burden and takes on far more than he often can or should to ensure things are a little easier for others. When we first met he was such a gentleman and I loved it. I'm not a weak woman and can fend for myself, but it felt good to have him beside me, to know he would hold a door for me, wrap his coat around me if I was cold, refuse to let me pay for dinner. I know many women don't like that these days, but women's liberation be damned. Chivalry is not dead in my relationship, he has sustained it throughout. It's attractive.
I could write a lot of words about why I'm attracted to my guy; it's everything combined and isolating one or two things is impossible.
Having said that, attraction to a man, for me, isn't at all about the physical aspects. Yes, that is what got my attention when I first met my boy, and, the way his eyes looked right inside me me, but he's like a book, there's so much more between the covers and as I turned more pages I realised the attraction I had for him comes from the inside...I'm still immersed in his story...and he's still attractive.
The world is a very superficial place and I'm so glad I'm not out there, single and looking for a partner, as I feel it would be very difficult. This is especially so when it seems people want to meet others on a phone screen and tend to make a decision based solely on appearance before swiping left or right at a whim. I'm sure it must work now and then, but it's not my way.
Understanding a person goes deeper than the surface just as understanding ourselves does. Being open to what lies beneath and valuing the attributes a person has is where lasting attraction begins.
Becca 💗
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