If I should be honest, anger management is the present goal I am working on when it comes to improving my life.
People have the tendency of always doing things that might make you so angry and lead to some heavy words.
Over the years, I have struggled a lot with anger management, and that's because I am so short-tempered. I easily get angry over issues that don't really matter, and the worst of all is that I always regret my actions after some minutes I display my anger.
One day I was going to work early in the morning I boarded a bus to my first bustop, I gave the driver 1000 Niara and my fare was 300 naira, all through the journey I was asking him for my balance he kept mute and I was wondering what he was going to do, when we got to the bustop I came down and mildly ask for my change, this man just moved his bus without saying anything, I got so upset that I didn't know when I jumped back in the bus and gave the man a sound slap from the back, he stopped the bus and came to retaliate, people gathered and asked what happened and I explained, everyone blamed him, some even said he wanted to go with the money that drivers steal a lot, so he gave me my change and I left,but I felt so bad and ashamed of myself over my reaction.
That's one thing about getting angry, when one is angry, you will do or say things that will definitely be awful, and when the spirit of anger leaves you, you will have so many regrets.
Personally, my anger destroyed some relationship I valued so much, and that is when I saw the reason to work on my anger, and there are so many tips that have really helped me.
I find it very difficult then to deal with people because I quickly flare up whenever they do what I don't like but I will always wish I was not a short-tempered person, it's even worse when I call myself a Bible student but I can't manage my anger that shows that am not applying the things I learn from Gods word and that contributed to the more reason why I started to work on anger management.
The truth about anger is that if one gives just a few seconds he or she will react differently over same issue.
Personal study project.
I decided to study more about anger management and this has helped me to understand the consequences of anger and why its important to manage it very well, its health implications, the study has also shown me how God himself feels about anger and His admonition on that, mismanagement of anger is one thing that can deprive one from getting close to God and I will never want anything that will severe my relationship with God, having this at the back of my mind has helped me not to overreact in any situation, tho sometimes I still lose it, but I believe that if I consistently continue to work on myself I will get better.
Allow time to pass
Yes I am working so hard on my muscles to help me refrain from responding immediately I get furious over a matter, and I will now try my best to give some seconds then I will be able to manage my anger very well without saying anything I will later regret.
Replace every word with okay and sorry.
Sometimes I will be so annoyed that I just want to say something so instead of saying what is in my mind that I will later regret I will just say okay or sorry, that will even calm the other person down and stop her from saying what will get me more angry, and if it's possible I would just walk out of the scene for a while and return when everywhere is calm.
Prayer
One might asked the connection between anger management and prayers, yes one with God is majority people say, anger management goes beyond what we see physically, some anger issues are hereditary and there is need for external power to deal with it, God gives the power beyond what is normal, so I beg him on daily basis to help me do the needful whenever someone annoys me, and He has been answering me by giving me the strength to walk away, stay silent when necessary and say sorry and okay no matter what someone said or did to me.
Do you think my tips are practical?
