Child discrimination has been an issue of concern in many homes without knowing how to go about it, this has caused strife, hatred, and bitterness among many siblings because the parents tend to favor one over the other. Join me as I share with you my view on this topic.
To me, child discrimination is the same as child abuse because such ruins the child's self-esteem, it makes him or her look inferior among his or her peers. Although favoritism is allowed and this is how parents choose to love their children but this shouldn't be shown among the children to avoid creating enmity between the children because once they notice one child is been favored the love between those children will diminish. Each child has his or her peculiarity and they should be treated according to their peculiarity, you can't expect every child to be the same in fact children can never be the same which means they can't have the same behavior, thoughts, intelligence, physique or morals or any other characteristics. The twin who was given birth on the same day doesn't have the same characteristics and talks less of the ones given birth to separately.
Some children are naturally brilliant while some have to be taught over and over again with the help of scolding before they can understand what you are teaching them. We have fast learners who need not be told what to do and also slow learners who you have to take your time with before they can learn. I will like to share with you an experience I had while growing up, I happen to be a fast learner, and I under things easily so it was easy for my mother to put me through things while my younger sister happens to be a slow learner so that bothers my parents a lot. During secondary school, I remembered how my dad will scold her before she can read and write simple English, assimilating was a rough journey for her because she forgets things easily but thank God for her life today she is doing well and has improved more than her imagination. My parents never showed any sign of discrimination just because she is a slow learner instead they encouraged her on daily basis to build her confidence and make her a better person.
During those times I never made fun of her nor criticize her instead I joined my parents in the training to help her in their progress and to make her see that she isn't alone in the journey today she is a big girl with extremely big vibes, she has forgotten she was once beaten because she was unable to read simple sentences. If I have neglected her then and shown signs that I am the most preferred maybe we wouldn't have been this close today. Lots of people refer to us as twins because we are almost the same height, we plait the same hairstyle wear the same clothes, and always stand in for each other.
IN CONCLUSION
You don't have to discriminate, you don't have to divide your children all because one has the qualities you want while the other didn't. Don't create any enmity between your children instead encourage them all and strike a good balance between them to keep them closer to one another and create a strong bond between them to give you peace of mind as parents.
Meet my best part, she is an independent woman today and with the love and affection that we showed her as the family, she was able to overcome the dark moments of her life.
Thank you as you read, I will be expecting your comments in my box.
