You need to attend a church. You will never grow spiritually while you remain unchurched. God requires that we worship him. It's really the only proper response to what Jesus did for us on the cross and what God does for us on a regular basis. Everyone needs to be part of a local church. You can minister to people and they can minister to you. And yes, I wonder if unchurched people are saved because they're obviously being disobedient by not attending church.